A person cannot ask for himself. The correct request to the Creator, in which a person remains in similarity and in connection with Him, is a request for a friend. As a result of the shattering, all people deliberately appear to be strangers to us so that we can build the quality of bestowal. It is as if the Creator could be retained only if He is taken hold of by ten pairs of hands at the same time.
If I awaken ten friends, then together, in ten pairs of hands, we will be able to grasp the Creator, like a baby that clings to his mother and does not let go. According to the extent of our unity, we can connect with the Creator. This makes it clear how our work should be.
Of course, a person can pray and ask, thinking that he speaks with the Creator. But the real work, and not the one that is perceived in our egoism, can only be in the common Kli created with the help of twenty hands. Only in this way can we cling to the Creator and adhere to Him.1
To build Jerusalem means to build fear in oneself that if help does not come from above, I will never achieve bestowal through created beings to the Creator. This is called “Jerusalem”—a complete fear (Ira’a Shlema)2
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 7/3/18, Writings of Rabash, Vol. 2, Article 39: “What Is, ‘Anyone Who Mourns for Jerusalem Is Rewarded with Seeing Its Joy’ In the Work” (1990)
1 Minute 29:25
2 Minute 36:20