Question: After the convention in Israel, egoism ripped us apart: We could not come to events, only five people were left from the entire group. Is it worthwhile to begin to disseminate in such conditions? How is it possible to strengthen the group and the inner work?
Answer: There are two levels of advancement. One of them is characterized by your attempts and efforts to do something with the understanding that all this is not you, that the hatred that flared up between you is truly senseless hatred and a result of the shattering of the soul.
The appearance of hatred is necessary in order to correct it and to reveal the Creator in the corrected and united state. And what is revealed in these harsh discoveries is indeed wonderful! You clearly see how much you disintegrate.
And if you begin to connect above this fragmentation, at least a little, then the condition for discovering the Creator will appear in you, which is revealed only where the breaking happened, and now the connection.
You must enter the common prayer, to a state where you turn to the Creator with a request. You are not ready to connect by yourselves. So you must ask for Him to gather and connect you.
Take an ordinary prayer book that everyone uses. The members of the Great Assembly, each one of whom was a great Kabbalist, arranged it about 2200 years ago. The Siddur (prayer book) comes from the word “Seder” (order). All of the texts cited in the prayer book are sequential requests of a person to the Creator so that the Creator will correct him in a group.
In principle, all of these are common prayers. Only about five percent are personal prayers. They are read in the morning, when a person wakes up and personally turns to the Creator, for he is still alone, there is no connection at all with anyone or anything, he only begins to recover gradually. That is how the text is structured.
And then he comes in contact with others if he leaves home and goes to a place of general gathering, for general prayer. Essentially he reaches a state where he begins to feel the others, the group, and reaches a general shared prayer. This general shared prayer is a request for connection.
All of our requests are derived from the collective vessel. In all of the prayers it is written: “We, we, we,” it never says “I,” except at the beginning of the prayers during the morning when one wakes up and seemingly warms himself up and recovers from sleep.
So the feeling of the breaking that passes over you needs to be in your consciousness as something very important and necessary, as something very right and good. In other words, the feeling of hatred, the inability not only to gather and to talk, but even to come to the group—“I will stay at home, I cannot be together with you!”—is feeling the shattered vessel, the shattered soul. And if you gather in spite of all your feelings and thoughts, then through rising above them, you make a correction in which the Creator is revealed. So what stands before you now is an absolutely clear action; what remains for you is to realize it.
You can try by yourselves. If it turns out, good, and if not, then invite some other group to come and be your guests. It’s worthwhile spending money to get together. They cannot get along between them and you cannot get along between you. Therefore gather together and begin to arrange workshops, discussions, make a shared meal, and sing some songs. Organize these yourselves without involving the central group; you can even not see our lessons for a few days to deal only with each other.
From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/28/14, Question and Answers with Dr. Laitman