Answer: If you want to be like a father and mother towards the friends, then you are concerned about them all the time like children. Please, take control of them as you would with little ones, but only on condition that you act solely for the benefit of the little ones, that their desires, needs, and shortcomings are what determine your thoughts, deeds, and desires.
They are your head, and you are doing what they want. This is called being Aba ve Ima. Please, take control!
From the 2nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 02.14.14, Writings of Rabash