Answer: Why do you see people in the material sense of the word? Why do you need faces? Does the body say something to you? It doesn’t say anything about the person.
In fact, soon, we will stop relating to character traits also. A person gets them when he is born or acquires them from the environment. This is not him.
His parents brought him into the world; he was educated in these institutions or others that he didn’t choose, and all his life, he is found in some environment. As a result of this, we see in him a particular form that is molded according to particular parameters. That is how they “made” him, and that is how he lives his life from beginning to end.
This is not truly him. Don’t attribute anything to that. He doesn’t even have a grain of anything original of his own, not in the characteristics of his body and not in his character traits. Everything is a result of what he apparently receives from others.
The man (Adam) in me begins from what I receive from above. If I enter a group and invest effort in it, then they are also a result of a particular education. If I begin to receive an illumination from above, thanks to which new characteristics are born in me that are opposed to the previous characteristics, this is the beginning of a new creature that is not linked to my body or character. Therefore, the soul is called, “a divine portion of God from above.”
So, it follows that the external appearance of the person and his behavior have no meaning. What matters is his investment in a group and his efforts. For this, he may receive a response from above and acquire what is called man.
Until then, he is not a man. He has nothing truly of his own. If, during his life, he doesn’t correct even one of his desires with the help of the Light that Reforms, it is as if he is not alive. You see, his spiritual account is empty and he participates in the process of historical evolution like everyone. There is nothing here to measure, to evaluate, and to weigh on the spiritual “scales.”
There is one additional caveat: Even if the person doesn’t correct himself, he doesn’t live his life in vain if he helps in the correction of others, if he brings them closer to the truth. In any case, it is worthwhile to work on this as much as possible. As Baal HaSulam writes in the “The Last Generation,” the goal of life is to merit adherence with the Creator, to maintain strictly the general rule to act only for His good, or to help many to reach adherence with Him.
From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 11/26/13, Writings of Baal HaSulam