In the News (from Columbia University): “When it comes to having a lasting and fulfilling relationship, common wisdom says that feeling close to your romantic partner is paramount. But a new study finds that it’s not how close you feel that matters most, it’s whether you are as close as you want to be, even if that’s really not close at all.
“’Our study found that people who yearn for a more intimate partnership and people who crave more distance are equally at risk for having a problematic relationship,’ says the study’s lead author, David M. Frost, PhD, of Columbia University’s Mailman School of Public Health. ‘If you want to experience your relationship as healthy and rewarding, it’s important that you find a way to attain your idealized level of closeness with your partner.’
“’It’s best not to make too many assumptions about what constitutes a healthy relationship,’ he says. ‘Rather, we need to hear from people about how close they are in their relationships and how that compares to how close they’d ideally like to be.’ …
“The concept could also be extended to non-romantic relationships such as co-workers, parent-child, and patient-provider interactions.”
My Comment: Everything in the world exists resting on the two opposite properties: giving and receiving. That is why the middle line (middle ground) is the main condition to stability in any system.