Answer: You will never be able to discern this by yourself. A person cannot find his place and self-realization unless he realizes himself within the group.
Some time ago I had a bad car accident and my liver was injured. A part of my liver had to be removed. Can we say that this removed part of the liver has any realization now? When it was inside the body and was connected with all its organs, this part was providing the body what it needed and in turn it was receiving from the body all the necessary things. This is called realization.
However, when this part is cut off from the body it doesn’t even know that it’s liver. Only if you decide to get connected to the body will you learn who you are. But for now you are simply a “stem cell” from which any organ can be formed and you don’t understand your function.
From the 3rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 12/20/12, “Introduction to the Study of Ten Sefirot