The Direct Ways Of A Man And The Delicacy Of A Woman
Question: Let us say that there are forty to fifty people in a group of integral learning. Where should the women be during the studies?
Answer: Figuratively speaking, women need to take men by the hand, bring them to their place, and sit them down. At the same time, they also can participate in this group, but purely externally. Men should not feel or see them.
Women must not be in the way of the men. It is best for them to observe the men though a video camera from another room.
Men sit in a circle. They can hug, be close to one another, and perceive their unity, their proximity, in different ways through whatever words they wish to use. They can cry and admire.
Women, practically, cannot have this kind of state between them, of course, except for certain eccentric individuals who also exist. This is why they need to sit in a separate auditorium, not in a circle, but in rows, in whatever way they wish to arrange their chairs or just randomly scattered around, and have a screen where they can see the men’s group.
This is exactly how they learn. They listen to the same article, feel and understand what the men are doing between them, and they do their inner preparation. Basically, they do not need more than this.
They understand the importance of the objective the men have undertaken and which only they can realize. At the same time, the women change and shape themselves, and this is absolutely enough. In other words, the men carry the importance and the realization of the goals with the absolute support of the women in the background.
Question: In other words, do women not need to take part in the discussion of what they see?
Answer: No, men absolutely do not need it! Women only need to express their support, admiration, and participation. Maybe, they can do some things to help.
Men must feel that they are supported constantly and passionately, that women seriously participate and, at the same time, are very demanding and attentive, like a mother. They demand a result from what is happening. As soon as the men attain any result, women need to show them their admiration and their approval without which they cannot advance.
Question: When women gather in a separate place, can they somehow communicate, talk, and discuss things?
Answer: Of course. First of all, they need to help themselves. Bring cakes, fruit, and sweets. They need to create a nice environment for everyone, but never impose mutual internal work on one another! It must be voluntary.
Naturally, they will feel close in spirit, a sort of a women’s union, but not more than that. Everything is done only around the men.
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From a Talk on Integral Upbringing 3/4/12
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Rav, just to say: I am a woman and was very passionately about your whole work in the world, until I came to read this article. So there you go again, shovinistic men’s attitude even in the spiritual work. You don’t make clear why do you exclude the women and give them the ridiculous tasks of bringing cakes.
The soul is sexless and women are women only in this world. In all of the millions other dimensions of the physical or spiritual world you even don’t know what sort of body you will have or you might even not have one.
I seriously will reconsider my interest in Kabbalah.