Question: How is a true overcoming different from fighting our ego?
Answer: It is impossible to fight our ego. Is it possible to fight our nature? You simply choose another desire, a greater one, in which that ego hides. It seems to you that you have overcome your ego, that you are fighting your ego with all your might.
Suppose I want to stop smoking and overcome my craving for a cigarette. But at the expense of what do I do that? It means that I see some greater gain in that; it cannot be any other way. So eventually, everything is determined by a greater gain; it is the same ego.
True overcoming is done in “faith above reason,” when I surrender to the group and through it attain the Light that Reforms, which operates on me and gives me the attribute of bestowal, takes me out of my ego, and raises me above the egoistic accounts.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 9/6/12, Writings of Rabash