The attributes a Kabbalist discovers internally in contrast to the Light make him feel the exile without which it is impossible to reach redemption. Of course, it is impossible to feel redemption, which is the feeling of the attributes of the Creator: bestowal, love, connection, unity, if you haven’t felt the opposite impressions, the state of exile, the opposite selfish attributes.
So it says: “Come to Pharaoh, for I have hardened his heart.” Pharaoh symbolizes the back of the neck, the direct opposite of the Creator, by which the whole essence of the redemption is revealed to us from the deep darkness of exile.
We should be ready to feel all the bitterness of exile, which is threatening and repulsive, and which deprives us of our powers and obliges us to sigh because of this kind of work. But it is impossible to feel the attribute of bestowal, the Creator, in any other way except by the attributes of the created being himself, which are revealed as “the benefit of the Light from within the darkness.”
A great deal of work and the strong support of the group is needed in order to reach that. By connecting and mutually bestowing upon each other first only externally and then internally, we help one another, as it says: “Each one shall help his friend.”
Helping others isn’t only about spurring and encouraging a little, but rather, it stems from understanding the system. To the extent that each one understands and knows his own ego and in contrast to it has some understanding, a feeling of the Creator’s bestowal, he wakes up by himself, like an integral part of the general system and begins to help others by drawing the Surrounding Light.
If we connect, at least to some extent, even if it is only externally, each one draws even the slightest Reforming Light, thus bestowing upon each other. This is why it is so important to have a good strong connection that will help us rise above our mutual hate, above the repulsion and the distance.
If we take all these problems realistically, we can account for being indifferent and hating each other. But at the same time, like grownups who are experienced with the internal work, we understand that we have to overcome the repulsion and to heal ourselves with the help of the upper Light, that heals all the illnesses of the ego, that can change us and connect us.
Thus we provide one another with the Reforming Light, and this is what helping others means. We forge an alliance among us so that even when a person is in descent, others can help him and pull him out and save him from this state.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/26/12, Writings of Baal HaSulam