Answer: We only hasten our development and not more than that. There is nothing else one can do in this world.
Until now I have developed under the pressure of suffering that pushed me from behind and forced me to rise above it. It was an egoistic development: I developed different means to ease the pain. This went on until 1995.
Then we were given a choice, and now I can evoke upon myself the force that brings another development, the force of Light that comes through the group, the studies, and so on. I will still have to feel pressure and suffering, but it will be the suffering of love that will pull me forward.
Unlike other troubles, the sufferings of love are sweet, and everyone likes them. It is like the “suffering” we feel before a meeting with a loved one or before having an opportunity to do something we enjoy. Thus, instead of suffering through the long path, I have to evoke upon myself the yearning for something good ahead of me.
From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 11/6/2011, “Matan Torah (The Giving of the Torah)”