Answer: At least I lack the desire, I have a negative intention. Coming without any intentions isn’t good. You should at least feel: “I don’t want to, but I am doing it.” Then you should do everything that is required. When you cannot dissolve in your friends, doing what needs to be done is also a wonderful state.
One way or the other, you should be aware of what you are going through in the convention: I incorporate myself into them with all my thoughts and desires, and I put everything else aside. Only my point in the heart enters the convention, and besides it, I have nothing else with me.
Question: But I have no control over that.
Answer: This is precisely why we need the preparation that will enable you to be free of the unnecessary load. You come in order to expand the point in your heart, that is, to connect it with all the other points. No one needs the extra “load” that you have. Only our sparks, which connect into one, should glow in the space of the convention hall. I don’t bring the load of all my problems there.
Question: How can you lose yourself among the friends, dissolve in them?
Answer: You should do everything that they do, everything they want you to do, and try to add your desire to these actions. In other words, you try to “clothe” in the group.
Question: Will these physical actions influence my thoughts?
Answer: Of course, the hearts follow the actions.
From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 11/28/2011, “The Essence of Religion and Its Purpose”