Answer: The state of smallness doesn’t disappear because it is the foundation of the degree, independent and unrelated to the state of greatness. It exists in itself.
If we look at our world, the “small state” is like a person who is alone in this world. He doesn’t need anything except basic necessities. But since he is surrounded by others who instill different desires in him, beyond necessity in the small state, he begins to want everything! These are not his desires, and therefore they can disappear.
And, then again society pressures the person, he adopts its new ideas and once again enters the state of greatness. The “great state” refers to a surplus.
In spirituality, the state of greatness (Gadlut) is really a surplus in the present level. It is impossible to be in this state if I don’t find someone upon whom I can bestow, according to my power and ability and the other person’s desire.
Therefore, the state of greatness disappears. If the lower one no longer desires to receive from me, I cannot bestow to him, and if another lower one develops a desire to receive from me, I begin to bestow upon him. These are things that do not depend on me.
In our world, greatness or adulthood means that a person grows up and becomes part of society, begins to work, and gives and receives from society. A grown-up is someone who started his independent life and is incorporated in the general work. Therefore, his desires are not his desires, and his actions are not intended for himself. This is called a state of greatness, adulthood.
We can see it clearly from examples in this world. After all, we are in a world in which we bestow to each other. It only seems to us that each one works just for himself. It is a false perception arranged for us from Above and confusing us.
In spirituality, the upper Partzuf merges with the Light only at the request of the lower one. Therefore, it necessary for us to understand the difference between the state of smallness and the state of greatness: The state of smallness (Katnut) is “I” myself. The state of greatness (Gadlut) isn’t me at all. The desires are not mine, but rather they are the desires of the lower ones. The powers that enable me to fulfill these desires are not mine, but come from Above, and the filling isn’t mine either, but is transmitted down. And I am in the middle, between the upper one and the lower one, in the middle third of Tifferet.
There is the huge difference between the state of greatness and the state of smallness. The little “me” is me, and the big “me” is the others, that is, “We.”
From the 3rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 11/8/2011, TES