A question I received: How could Aba ve Ima (father and mother) allow the shattering of Kelim, since it was their fault that it occurred? In other words, did they allow the Light to descend because of too much love?
My Answer: No, this wasn’t a case of too much love, or the lack of understanding or weakness associated with a mother who is over-caring. The reason was the lack of knowledge of the one and only factor which was impossible to predict ahead of time.
Aba ve Ima (father and mother) didn’t know that when the connection with the Creator was revealed it would bring such tremendous pleasure to the creature. However, the creature didn’t have a screen (the correct intention to receive it).
Let’s recall the example of the guest and the host. The host wants to treat the guest from the bottom of his heart because he loves him. The guest, however, refuses and finally agrees to be treated only to please the host. In this way the guest expresses his love to the host rather than simply satisfying his own appetite, even though he is very hungry.
A person who wants to love the Creator and give everything he has to Him sees the treats laid out before him and knows he’ll get them; all the pleasures from this table have already been tried. However, he repays the Host with everything he received from Him.
By doing so, a person uncovers who he really gives back to. One reveals the Creator’s greatness as well as tremendous pleasure originating from the connection between that person and the Creator. And he has no power to resist that pleasure. This state is impossible to imagine before we receive the Light (the treat). By acting so, a person gradually rises to the level of the Creator and comes to receive the status of the Host.
Moreover, this sensation cannot be revealed from the start because the Creator wanted the creature to make this revelation independently in order to achieve this status on its own. All other actions of the creature are not independent, since they simply unfold through the chain of Reshimot (one’s inner informational genes).
The point of free action on the creature’s part lies in attaining the Creator’s status as well as making all the revelations that accompany this process. This point of free action is revealed precisely by virtue of the shattering of vessels (Shevirat Kelim).
The Creator cannot give this attainment directly to the creature, but only by way of a “detour”; so that the creature makes this discovery on its own and shatters. Shattering means that one understands that he can’t do it himself because it is beyond him. A person is unable to give away that much and sacrifice such tremendous pleasure. Thus, a shattering occurs.
After the shattering, a person acquires the chance to attain this status. It happens gradually, in small portions, with the exception of the “stoney heart” – the point at which the pleasure of attaining the status of Creator is concentrated at the moment of the shattering. However, eventually even this point is corrected.
In other words, the shattering is the great revelation of the chasm which separates the Creator and the creature, which the Creator doesn’t allow the creature to feel directly. This is why the creature must shatter and reveal its evil.