Convention in Bulgaria, Day 3, Lesson 5

Convention in Bulgaria, Day 3, Workshop 7

Convention in Bulgaria, Day 3, Workshop 8

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Convention in Bulgaria, Day 2, Lesson 3 

Convention in Bulgaria, Day 2, Lesson 4

Convention in Bulgaria, Day 2, Workshop 4

Convention in Bulgaria, Day 2, Workshop 5

Convention in Bulgaria, Day 2, Lesson 5

Convention in Bulgaria, Day 2, Workshop 6

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Convention in Bulgaria “Opening,” Day 1,

Convention in Bulgaria, Day 1, Workshop 1

Convention in Bulgaria, Day 1, Lesson 1

Convention in Bulgaria, Day 1, Workshop 2

Convention in Bulgaria, Day 1, Lesson 2

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Question: What is the function of the roundtable organizers? What things should they manage, what should they leave to self-management?

Answer: The facilitator of a roundtable needs to be a nanny, a teacher, a leader. Any changes in the course of the discussion come only from his instruction and questions.

The participants themselves don’t invent anything, they are constantly led and guided. Gradually they gather an experience of connection and from it they advance onward. But without a facilitator, this will not last, they will confuse themselves. Therefore they need to follow his instructions strictly.

The facilitator and the participants in the roundtables set up along this common instrument, this Kli, together so that all will be playing in concert, and with this, a uniform harmony will result. And everyone will be stimulated by it, will be fulfilled from creating a group among them, connection, into which each of them disappears and begins to be nourished from that commonality that is created between them.

All this happens under the management of the facilitator. From the start he arranges a precise list of questions that they will discuss, but along the way he can adjust them because he has to feel what needs to be changed according to how and what they are discussing.

For example, during discussions like these, I generally sit at a distance and don’t disturb the participants in the roundtables, but they know that I am listening to them. I ask them a question and according to their answers give them correction and direction: The next question and another question. It doesn’t have to be that I go according to questions that were prepared from the start. If I hear that something is not right or distorted in some way, then I ask the next question in such a way that they will correct their previous answer.

So there is constant adjustment until we reach a state where the participants in the discussion feel that they have reached a common conclusion and in principle have risen above themselves, have connected into one single opinion, a single desire. A common “child” appears as a result of the discussions and gives them a feeling of fulfillment, both emotional and intellectual.
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From Kab TV’s “Through Time” 9/15/13

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Question: Is it possible to gather representatives of different social classes together at the roundtables? Wouldn’t they reject each other because they are not equal?

Answer: At the roundtable people need to feel equal. We are not equal by nature, but it does not depend on us, turn to the Creator who created us this way. In all other aspects, we are equal. We came here and no one should feel uninvited, disadvantaged, or flawed.

So I always insist that people have absolutely equal initial conditions, and the only thing that has to be corrected between them is for everyone to rise above his own egoism to the state of a common platform. I believe that at least in the first stage, when we are still creating roundtables, we need to make them as homogeneous as possible.

If we do not form them according to a qualification of  properties or on any other basis, you may have problems. After all, very different people can hardly understand each other, so there should be at least some preliminary connection between them.

Therefore, it’s desirable to select people that are similar to each other. Then it will be easier for them to connect. People carry with them the various social conventions that they have accumulated throughout their lives. During life, people develop a whole conceptual framework, and each one has lived in such different conditions that people can hardly understand each other.

I am in favor of gathering equal people at roundtables. A manager, his deputy, an employee, and a cleaner cannot sit at the same table and be free in discussion. We need to take into account what people come to the table with. I do not think that in the real world we can connect such opposite people as the president and the cleaning lady, and I would not like to attempt these experiments; this would be a lack of understanding for the cleaning lady and humiliation for the president.

Understanding and unity is possible only if people have already risen to the level at which they equally feel the need for each other and they complement each other fully. Our task is to bring them to this level. After they experience completely different values that they will draw from the common roundtable, then it is a different matter. But this should come.
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From Kab TV’s “Through Time” 9/15/13

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Convention in Stockholm, Day 2, Lesson 3

Convention in Stockholm, Day 2, Workshop 3

Convention in Stockholm, Day 2, Lesson 4

Convention in Stockholm, Day 2, Workshop 4

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Convention in Stockholm, Day 1, Lesson 1

Convention in Stockholm, Day 1, Workshop 1

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Question: Today there are very many couples who live together without being formally married. Is it possible to work with them as with married couples?

Answer: If they have a joint household, a common concern, a common “account,” perhaps even children together, what difference does it make if they did a Huppah or went to the Rabbanut or swore to each other under the moon? They are considered to be a couple, for everyone recognizes them as husband and wife, they are a family.

They can even file a lawsuit in court for the distribution of property; it makes no difference if they are officially married or not. The witnesses complete the missing signature.

Question: There are people who have been married for 15 – 20 years, have children, but live separately. In fact, psychologically they are considered to be a couple, but they have a separate household. Can people like these be invited to workshops?

Answer: I think it is possible because they also feel themselves to be a family. Simply our ego today is so great, that it can’t endure anyone near it. Even if they have a single home, many men often sleep in another room and the women understand this, and she doesn’t want to see him near her that much herself. And the children certainly have separate rooms. That is, we have transformed into notorious individualists.

Therefore if they have a common concern and this concern is permanent, and further are connected to children in common, then they are considered to be a family.

Psychologically, the person is a complex creature. And so if he is officially married, this obliges him internally; this puts pressure on him, compared to life in a common law marriage (not officially married).

It is enough for a man to think that he is not officially married; he will be concerned about this woman much more than he would be to a woman to whom he is officially married. For then it would seem to him that the woman puts pressure on him, obligates, “locks” him to herself, and with another woman he feels himself to be free. And she will also feel the same way.

The dual structure of reciprocity says only that an official connection sometimes leads to rigidity, to hatred, that conspires against one; the state obligates one.

Whereas freedom that a woman allows, on the contrary, attracts and obligates a man to flirt all the time, to be concerned about his position, because nothing is obliging them to be together.

All of these familial variations are found today in a process of very rapid change. I don’t think that in the future these forms will be sustained. At the very least, the registration for marriage will be very conventional. All of this will not be necessary; rather mutual agreement will be enough.

In particular when people begin to distribute all that is required for a person in order to live properly and equitably, then the factor of “ensuring” and “anxiety” will disappear; only the factor of inner connection will remain. Then the role of the Rabbanut, the role of the marriage ceremony, will take on integral connections. Specifically they will begin to connect people with each other and a person will want to continue living in this harmony. Therefore married couples will emerge from the integral workshops that are ready.
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From a Talk on Integral Upbringing 4/4/13

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Convention in St. Petersburg, “Method of Creating the Right Relationships in the Group,” Day 2, Lesson 3

Convention in St. Petersburg, “Method of Creating the Right Relationships in the Group,” Day 2, Workshop 3

Convention in St. Petersburg, “Harmony at Work,” Day 2, Practical Workshop 

Convention in St. Petersburg, “Good Environment as the Means of Achieving the Goal of Every Person,” Day 2, Lesson 4

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Convention in St. Petersburg, “A Single Governing Force of Nature,” Day 1, Lesson 1

Convention in St. Petersburg, “A Single Governing Force of Nature,” Day 1, Workshop1

Convention in St. Petersburg, “Round Tables,” Day 1, Practical  Workshop 

Convention in St. Petersburg, “The Collective Influence of the Single Force of Nature Manifests Inside the Circle,” Day 1, Lesson 2

Convention in St. Petersburg, “The Collective Influence of the Single Force of Nature Manifests Inside the Circle,” Day 1, Workshop 2

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