Question: How should I deal with my surroundings outside of the group (work, family, and friends) who have no aspiration for spirituality?

Answer: You have nothing to do with such a society unless you come to them in order to teach them the wisdom of Kabbalah and they accept this path, become inspired by it, and are willing to work according to what is written in our books.

You may offer them various teachings and methods, and if they accept specifically our method of spiritual ascent, accept the goal, and are prepared to follow this path, then they form a goal-oriented society moving toward spirituality. This is possible. But as long as they have not accepted our method, you cannot relate to them as a Kli  (vessel) through which you will continue your spiritual advancement.

Question: How does my close environment, which has no connection to my path, influence me?

Answer: It depends on how significant and important the goal is to you. If it is important, then they have no influence on you.

For example, I visit my mother, and she begins to complain: “You never rest, you never sleep. How can you live like this? Just look at yourself! How many years have you been living this way?” I sit and listen to her, since she is already advanced in age, but it does not affect me. There is nothing to be done; mothers are all the same. She speaks, and I remain as I am.

However, there are environments that are quite aggressive and can harm me through their influence. In such a case, I prefer to distance myself from them, because I have no obligations toward them. Toward my mother, I must show respect; I have duties toward her. But a friend is someone connected to you by a common goal. The word “Haver” (friend) comes from Hithabrut (connection, joining).

For example, friends from my hometown may come to visit, people I once invited and spent time with, yet today I have no connection with them. I have close relatives who have lived in Israel for ten years or more, and I have not even met with them. Sometimes my mother asks me to call a relative, and then I call and inquire about their health once every few years.

Why do I behave this way? Simply because it is not within my field of attention. How can I maintain a connection with a person with whom I have nothing in common?

I am not telling you this without reason, it is a common situation in life. Everything depends on a person’s desire.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 5/20/26, Rabash, “The Difference between Charity and Gift”

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