Baal HaSulam, Shamati 99: “He Did Not Say Wicked or Righteous”: If one does not have any desire or craving for spirituality, if he is among people who have a desire and craving for spirituality, if he likes these people, he, too, will take their strength to prevail, and their desires and aspirations, although by his own quality, he does not have these desires and cravings and the power to overcome.
If a person finds himself inside a group and those people whom he sees in the group are pleasant to him and do not repel him, then by being with them, he is gradually imbued with their goals, aspirations, desires, and ideals.
Therefore, we must be aware that we are in a Kabbalistic group and humble ourselves before our friends in order to envy them and to draw near them.
Question: What does it mean that people who strive for spirituality are pleasant to me?
Answer: You love them, respect them, and you want to be like them and be with them because they, like you, yearn for spirituality. And you realize that without these people you will not reach spirituality.
Question: Are they pleasing to me only because they yearn for spirituality? I don’t care what they are really like?
Answer: Of course not! What difference does it make whether they are black, white, red, have a beard, or are lop-eared! The main thing is that I have same desires as them and strive for the same goal. I understand that without them I will not achieve it.
Imagine that you are in a raging sea in the same boat with ugly, scary people. But you will not reach the shore without them! What can you do? Anyway, you gradually realize that this is what your egoism depicts to you.
From the International Convention “Rising Above Ourselves” 1/8/22, “Deriving the Greatness of the Goal from the Friends” Lesson 4