Question: The predetermined states that I must go through—isn’t this fate, an ominous fate, because I feel them as bad and painful?
Answer: No. You are capable of not feeling pain and evil. But you must be in the next state. That is, you must rise from state “X” to state “Y.” Your future state has already been predetermined and you must be in it.
The question is how you reach it. If you refuse to reach it voluntarily, you will be “beaten by sticks.” And if you agree, you will be led to the desired state. Everything depends on your attitude to your development.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 4/28/19