A mother cares for a baby because she gets satisfaction from it by her nature. But this isn’t bestowal that the wisdom of Kabbalah talks about. With spiritual bestowal, I don’t receive any benefit or material satisfaction—everything is aimed at the one to whom I wish to bestow.
Real bestowal isn’t like bestowal in our world, which can happen even against my desire, out of fear or another calculation. This is not bestowal. Bestowal is when I have no personal benefit or satisfaction from it.
From Twitter, 10/17/19