The upper level is called father, the lower one is son. The upper cannot be completely responsible for the lower and vice versa. They have to adhere to certain types of connection in order to support each other, but can only be held accountable for the fulfillment of their own work.
Therefore, in a Kabbalistic group, as well as everywhere else, we stay in contact with each other, and each person has to understand the framework of his responsibility. Torah, on the one hand, talks of our complete unity with each other, and on the other hand, how we have to be responsible for ourselves.
I bear responsibility for helping my friends, but only answer for my own actions, and I have no right to delve into what is going on inside any of them.
I am obligated to put forth my share of the effort, support, and interaction because we are all small parts of one system. But I do not know how the next part will play out. I only answer for what I pass to it, but cannot assume another’s work. Everyone has his own freewill.
Question: How can I determine my particular part in the group?
Answer: You have to provide others with what they need for their normal functioning. Only this! That is why everyone remains free in their actualization and must give the others what he has to for their actualization.
There is a system of rules where parts of the integral system have to be connected to each other to satisfy the conditions of its proper functioning.
From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 10/31/16