Torah, Deuteronomy, Ki Teitzei, 21:10 – 21:13: If you go out to war against your enemies, and the Lord, your God, will deliver him into your hands, and you take his captives, and you see among the captives a beautiful woman and you desire her, you may take [her] for yourself as a wife. You shall bring her into your home, and she shall shave her head and let her nails grow. And she shall remove the garment of her captivity from upon herself, and stay in your house, and weep for her father and her mother for a full month. After that, you may be intimate with her and possess her, and she will be a wife for you.
In the process of spiritual work a person rises to a level called “Eretz Israel” or “the Land of Israel.” “Eretz” is a desire that has to become completely Israel, “Yashar Kel” or “straight to the Creator.”
How will I be able to actualize this desire? Desire is always feminine. Among many of my desires some are already under my control. There are others which I can easily correct with the help of particular mutual efforts with others.
And there are also uncorrected, egoistic desires, which are called “the nations of the world” or “the seven nations” living in the Land of Israel. I can correct these desires only if I “destroy” all men, because men symbolize intention and in the “nations of the world” they are always egoistic. This is why to destroy all egoistic intentions means to “destroy men.”
Having removed the male level of intentions, I move to the female level of desires, and look to see with what am I able to work. Let us say, I meet a woman, that is, I see a very bright, intense, strong desire, but it needs to be corrected. If I do this correctly, creating on top of it a true intention toward the Creator, then as a result, I come closer to a connection with Him.
That is why I yearn for these desires or “desire beautiful women,” it does not matter what we call it. In either case, we should not imagine this as scenes in our material world.
So when I see that I have an opportunity to take a “captive as wife,” that is, to reveal within myself such desire, illuminate, correct, and aim it toward the Creator, I gladly move toward it, even though this will entail very difficult work. Because now I need to rise above this desire, rejecting my previous life.
It’s because on the previous level I was a corrected person. But now I move toward conquering the next level, “the Land of Israel,” which will connect me with the Creator and on which I will attain Him.
But when I begin to reveal within myself this level of egoism, I suddenly see that there I have many selfish intentions (spiritually male entities), and all of them rule over female desires. In light of this, I need to keep the desires and change the intentions. That is why, as it is said in the Torah, I need to kill all the men and sanctify all the women.
And here there is a list of rules of how it is possible to initially correct these desires, while I am not able to work with them in order to bestow. In other words, desire is a woman whom I have to bring home, sit her down separately, have her shave her head and grow her nails, wash herself, and weep for her parents.
And only after she goes through this entire preparation process and is completely under my control, I can begin to work with this desire in order to bestow. In this way, I conquer the Land of Israel. But without captives, I would not have achieved this because without them, I have no desires.
Rising to the level of wanting to work directly with the Creator, I reveal the desire called “captives,” as if they are not my own; they are alien, egoistic, heavier, more coarse, opposite to the Creator. I must destroy previous egoistic intentions, but in order to work with these desires in an altruistic way, I need to first cleanse them, that is, correct them.
Question: What is meant by “shave the hair” of this desire?
Answer: The word “hair” (“Searot” in Hebrew) comes from the word “Soer,” which means “excitement, agitation.” Within a person appear all kinds of burning desires with which he cannot be connected to the Creator. That is why they need to be “shaved” and cleansed in water, in the Light of Hassadim.
Question: What is meant by “weep for her father and her mother”?
Answer: Tears are the overflow of Light, which the person is not able to receive within their uncorrected desires. That is why she needs to cry them out.
From KabTv’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 9/26/16