A meal is an action that is natural for our bodies. Babies are attached to their mothers by an umbilical cord through which they receive sustenance. When adults sit at the table and eat together, it is a sign of mutual trust and connection among them.
Our meals are very specific because we are in that state of connectedness. However, our meals are not Kabbalistic as of yet; rather, they are in between what we would like to achieve and what we are capable of achieving.
During the meals, we don’t “hint” at the internal work of our friends; instead, we fulfill others by asking questions, giving answers, singing songs, saying L’chaims. In other words, we fill others and don’t let them be themselves.
Anybody who attends our common meals should be focused internally and very little on the others. There should be a purely internal communication among us.
Question: What is the spiritual root of meals?
Answer: The spiritual root of meals is receiving of the Light of Hochma. The Kli (vessel) has to be ready for the quality of Hesed (bestowal). Only under the condition that the vessel receives the Light of Hassadim can it experience spiritual hunger. It happens because the vessel acquires a chance to receive the Light of Hochma, but it doesn’t descend to it. This is a prerequisite of the clarification and revelation of the Light of Hochma. At this point, absorption (consumption) of the Light occurs and Taamim (tastes) appear.
From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/17/14, Questions and Answers with Dr. Laitman