If we don’t feel a response to our attitude, then there is a problem. It is as if we are up against a wall and cannot change it, nor can we change ourselves by it. In that case there is no connection among us.
It may be absolute hatred or absolute love, it doesn’t really matter, but if we are up against something that doesn’t change, then we cannot change our attitude towards it either. If I don’t change, I feel that I am dead, since the feeling of life is determined by changes.
So if I cannot add anything to my love and the other side cannot add anything or summon anything in me, then we find ourselves in a very problematic situation. It is true that the attainment of absolute love is the goal of our relationship with the Creator, but this is only if we rise above and build our love on mutual bestowal by restricting our ego.
I conceal myself from the love of the Creator and accept it only as fuel that enables me to love Him. I receive pleasure only by bestowing upon Him. So this absolute love doesn’t annul our feeling towards one another, but rather allows us to develop them more.
The end of correction is the end of the correction of the vessels, but not the end of the growth of bestowal. Bestowal has no limits, and so this state is called the world of Ein Sof (Infinity). The desire to receive has limits and an end, and the intention also has limits and an end, but there is no end to our ability to rise above our desire to receive with the right intention.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 1/29/13, Writings of Baal HaSulam