Question: It is written that the righteous lament lacking suffering in their lives since it is pain that expands the vessel of perception.
Answer: It is not about the suffering of the ego when a person, looking back on the life he has lived, feels bad about missed opportunities: “There I missed the opportunity to get rich, here to make love, and here to take a break!” and so on, so that in his old age he would be reproaching and chewing at himself. This is a terrible state!
Spiritually, there is no such thing, since we discern where in my life I was unable to exert extra effort for the sake of connection with others, for the sake of their and my correction, for the sake of rising over our egoism onto a higher level, the human degree.
But this isn’t suffering because to the extent that I am experiencing it right now, I immediately correct it.
Question: Then what do the righteous mean by “suffering”?
Answer: They worry about missed opportunities and instantly fulfill them.
After all, they still experience desires. Conversely, they sort of pick up where they left some “unfinished business” in life. For example, at present I wish to see my students in a perfect state. This is my greatest wish, and it is already implementing the rest.
From KabTV’s “Foundations of the Integral Society” 3/11/12