Each of us has been in a situation when we were in a close relationship with someone, but all of a sudden had an argument. When this happened, we got angry and tried to get revenge; we strove to show what the split entailed for the other person and that he or she would pay a price for their actions. In other words, we wanted to demonstrate that spoiled relationships and separation will trigger suffering and bitter consequences.
Previously, we didn’t feel that we were able to treat each other so badly and actually enjoy the other person’s suffering. This is how the “stony heart” (Lev Ha Even) is revealed. When we split with another person, we want to turn our prior love and connection into hatred and evil in relation to another person so that we enjoy our hatred and evil even more than love.
Hatred unites both desires, mine and the other person’s, their suffering and my egoistic pleasure that I receive because I cause pain to someone. Thus, we double our vessel, perception.
This is how the stony heart reveals itself. Without it, we would be unable to reveal the hidden hatred within us and as a result, wouldn’t recognize love either. Initially, we had good relations. Now, we are going through craziness that doesn’t even remotely remind us of our prior relationship. The difference is huge; it’s like the gap between flowers growing next to each other or cute kittens playing together and two brutal egoists who mortally hate each other.
We can’t even imagine this difference. This is a birth of a new desire (Kli). It always has existed in the created being, but secretly.
The desire to receive pleasure was created by the Light; the Light is primary, whereas desire is secondary, it is a consequence of the Light. If not for that, the difference between “Yesh Mi Yesh” (existence from existence) and “Yesh Mi Ain” (existence from absence) would be clarified. However, it has never been discovered since the Light originally acted upon the created being, “sweetened” and supported it with its love.
The created being grew under the influence of love and had no chance to differentiate between itself and the Light. The Light ruled and suppressed the created being by its love and didn’t allow it to consider or sense its own needs. The needs were completely fulfilled, and that is the reason why the diffference between the Creator and the created being has never been revealed.
It became apparent as a result of the shattering. Now we begin to uncover our egoism even more, to the degree where we take advantage of everybody for our pleasure.
Egoism is not that terrifying in the corporeal world as it is in spirituality. There, in the system of impure forces (Klipot) appalling relationships get revealed.
Today, in our world every other couple goes through a similar split in their relationship. This is an example that in this world, on our small earthly egoistic level, we have already reached complete revelation of the stony heart.
The stony heart exists at each level starting with this world and up to the world of Infinity. It manifests itself according to the height of the degree, but only at the very top is true hatred revealed.
This is what the “spies” tell us: “Life is magnificent in the country flowing with milk and honey; wonderful fruits grow there! At the same time, strong and cruel people inhabit this land, and no one can prevail against them!” This is how the “stony heart” reveals itself.
This is why the sons of Israel screamed in the desert: “Why do we have to go ahead, let’s return to Egypt! We had plenty of meat and garlic there.… What else do we need?” This is the revelation of the “stony heart”; there is no other evil but it.
From the 3rd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 11/8/2011, TES