The Woman’s Role in Maintaining a Good Relationship
Kabbalah & Relationships
Tips on how to build successful relationships based on the spiritual principles and understanding of our nature
By praising her man, a woman helps him develop and strengthens their relationship.
Today the divorce rate is astounding and most relationships are short-lived. Because of this, it is very important for people to find out how they can maintain a successful marriage.
In order for a woman to understand how to best fulfill her part of the relationship, she must understand the nature of a man. Then she will be wise and able to create a lasting and loving relationship.
But how can a woman come to understand a man’s nature? After all, men and women are so different. In fact, the right understanding can come from the right actions. A woman should express her appreciation of her man, letting him know that he is special to her, that he is great—and doing this often! Then she will realize what he needs from her, and what kind of a connection there should be between them.
She will see that a man needs motherly care, praise, and admiration. Despite being masculine, big, and “macho,” a man actually has a great need for sympathy. And if a woman gives this to him, he won’t be able to leave her.
In fact, it’s similar to how a woman acts with a child. She tells him, “You’re wonderful, you did such a great job, you’re big, you can do it, you’re special, you’re the most unique person in the entire world—you, you, you…” And this makes the man remain with her.
But most importantly, she should do this with love. A man desires to hear this all the time, because men really are like children, and they often see a woman as a mother. And even though this kind of a relationship may seem “imbalanced,” it will become balanced out because it will make the man want to “rise up,” to show how great he is. It will awaken his desire to become greater in a positive way, rather than in an overbearing, negative way.
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