Egoism is called “help against me” because if I imagine it against myself, it really helps me. But if I associate myself with it, then of course it is an enemy. It all depends on how we position ourselves in relation to egoism.

How do I not forget that only when I do not identify myself with it, but see it against me, egoism helps?

This can be achieved only through the environment. A person will never be able to hold himself in this state. He will always identify himself with the ego and fall into it, if the group, like a magnet, will not raise him above egoism. There are two forces: from the top—the force of the group, and from the bottom—the force of egoism.

If the group can pull my “I” out of this egoism and keep it outside, then I will feel egoism against me. If it cannot raise me, then I will fall back into egoism all the time, and I will not be able even to remember to see it outside myself.

Therefore, only the group can take care of this by means of its opinion, by mutual guarantee.
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From the Kharkov Convention “Uniting to Ascend” 8/17/12, Workshop 2

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Question: What state should we achieve at a workshop to be successful: awareness of what we want but are unable to unite or that we all have the same feeling? And if we do feel, is it an illusion? Because we cannot unite and become aware of this every day.

Answer: No, we are heading towards unity; we are uniting. If we were not united, we would not have felt new impressions and new understandings. The unity that we have reached here has not reached the spiritual threshold, but it is unity.

You now have the same understanding, feelings, and thoughts; you experienced all this together. You have tasted from the same source, the same questions, identical, similar responses, although there were many different ones, it does not matter!
You have experienced unity!
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From the Kharkov Convention “Uniting to Ascend” 8/19/12, Lesson 7

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The sum of our gratitude for the past gives us the total vessel (Kli) for the disclosure of the Creator, total sensitivity, power, intensity, suffering, movement forward. Why is gratitude so important? Because in this way a person already has a positive attitude to the Creator, to the Light; he sees It positively, and the Light shines on him as It is ready to shine the Light.

When we give thanks for the past, and everyone makes such an effort connecting with the friends in the group to gain the strength to relate to the past correctly, then we unite and form the common desire to understand and reveal the Creator. This is on the one hand.

On the other hand, this desire is filled with gratitude, awareness, and appreciation of the past because we begin to feel that it was absolutely necessary in order to come to this current state where we start to enter the upper world. Why is this state that we obtain by nullifying the negative past a means to reveal the Creator? Because it gives us absolute confidence that the world is ruled by only one positive force. Thus, we can feel like a baby in its mother’s arms. Nothing else is necessary; everything is in complete order. A baby can smell his mother, and he feels safe in her arms.

Once we reach this state of security and confidence, the world becomes infinite; it simply gives way. A person feels that he is unlimited. Nothing constricts us; we are under no authority, pressure, or constraints, neither conscious nor subconscious! And that is why the upper world is revealed, the total, true universe in which we live which has been compressed to the level, the size, of this world by our constant, alarming, apprehension of something unpleasant, and by lacking the proper characteristic of the Creator who rules and dominates everything. Thus revelation occurs. It is possible to bring yourself to the full revelation of the upper governance only by working on yourself, your past, present, and future. By this, we completely eliminate time, the most limiting factor of our world. Completely! If I think that I am in one constant force that controls everything and keeps everything in an absolutely positive state, then there is no time. What changes? There is no motion or movement, no top, bottom, no coordinates, just one simple space, the world of Infinity.

Of course, we need to grow to this state. I also don’t know what it is yet. But at least, the expansion of the sphere in which we exist by obtaining guarantees, security, the feeling of oneself in the mercy of the quality of bestowal which gives us this movement outwards to the expansion of the sphere.
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From the Kharkov Convention “Uniting to Ascend” 8/19/12, Workshop 7

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During the workshop, imagine you are in your soul and that the ten people sitting with you in a circle aren’t just people but a connection that creates the vessel of your soul. We discover such a connection among us as we receive material, a desire, the general collective vessel, in which the Light is revealed.

The desire and the Light together will give us the feeling of the spiritual level on which we will feel a special force that builds and sustains this level, which means the Creator, and which includes all the desires and the Lights. We have to imagine all this during the workshop.

A soul is our mutual bestowal. You are sitting in a circle of ten people and you have to imagine a network of mutual bestowal that connects you all. Each one feels that he annuls himself in it and that he is incorporated in the general desire. There is no I, you, or he that bestows upon others; everyone bestows upon everyone. To the extent that each one totally disappears and instead of ten people and the field among them, there is only the connecting field that remains and the people seem to disappear.

This field is called a spiritual “vessel,” our attitude, the desire to bestow upon one another. Accordingly the Light dresses in this desire of mutual bestowal.

This desire of mutual bestowal is called a “soul,” and the Light that fills it is called the “Light of the soul,” its life, its vitality, NRNHY. There is no other reality! It is into this reality that you enter more deeply each time and begin to feel that this is where all of humanity is, all the forces, and all the relationships. This is where you discover the Creator.

You become unlimited, because before that you annulled yourself and entered the field that connects you. By that you erase all the boundaries: It isn’t by absorbing an unlimited amount but by being incorporated unlimitedly in others, as if getting lost in them.

Thanks to that you begin to feel this whole vessel. This is called a desire to bestow that actually reshapes you and gives you a limitless form.
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 8/24/12, Writings of Rabash

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Question: If I suddenly feel the desires of everyone else, what should I do with them? Should I fill them?

Answer: If you don’t just feel extraneous desires but the yearnings of your friends, their desires for the goal, then you identify with these desires and don’t divide them into “theirs” and “yours” anymore.

If you are yearning for the right thing, you turn into “there is none else besides Him,” into an integral part, so there is no division anymore. It should be like a test, a control for the right yearning.

You feel your friends’ desires as your own. You simply connect with them and so there is no “you” and “them.”

A person is a desire; each of us is a desire. If we want to feel others we perceive them as ours.

If a mother is filled with her child’s desires, her desires and his desires are still separate, but if we want to attain the revelation of the Creator by yearning for Him for “there is none else besides Him,” we feel our desires as absolutely identical; I don’t feel a difference between my desires and the desires of others.

Imagine that you have just connected with someone, that you spoke to him, felt that you think alike, and that you want the same thing, you become as one man. The external division of the bodies disappears, and there is only one, internal—not two connected but one.
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From the Kharkov Convention “Uniting to Ascend” 8/18/12, Lesson 5

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Question: There is a spiritual committee in our group. Three men are elected to raise the importance of the goal in the group throughout the week. You say that the presence of women is always additional help. Can the spiritual committee also have three women participating on this committee from the women’s part?

Answer: No, you cannot. When men are talking about their spiritual problems, they must clarify them separately. You must find another place to solve some problems together, but not during the time the men designate as their strictly male meeting time. You can’t do that! This will not work!

We, meaning humanity, are purposely separated into two very sharp parts: male and female. This dissection and separation comes from above to below, as the Creator to creation. These are two worlds. It’s impossible to connect and compare them in any way.

Unity between man and woman happens only through the Creator; otherwise, this unity doesn’t exist. Therefore, we see where this is leading in our world. With everything that is happening around us, we can only balance it through the Creator. In the same manner we can also balance our families, but only if we accept the necessary condition that the Creator has to be between us, as between me and my friend, also between me and my spouse. If He’s not there, then there won’t be any connection between us. In the end, this is what we are coming to.

However, joint meetings of men and women must really be held and also men’s and women’s meetings separately. And women need to be thinking about how they can unite among themselves and how to help the men.
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From the Kharkov Convention “Uniting to Ascend” 8/18/12, Lesson 4

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Question: In the Ukraine, there is a high rate of unemployment. Employment centers were set up where conversations with psychologists take place. Would it be possible to give integral education classes in these centers?

Answer: That would be very good. Those kinds of listeners would better grasp the information. You only need the correct preparation and to express the information correctly, saying only what is essential. If the opportunity exists, then you need to prepare for it. In my blog, I write a lot about the unemployed needing not only retraining courses, but also entire universities.

We need to keep these people busy with something. If they sit at home, then violence and other undesirable things will begin to flourish. I am not even talking about divorces and other things. You cannot have both a husband and wife together at home. We must do something. A man shouldn’t sit at home; it ruins him. A woman can, but a man cannot.

Thus, it is essential to organize entire universities for the people so that they will study all the subjects that we learn: free choice, psychology, the ego as the source of evil, and the development of the ego. We have books about these subjects; there are all kinds of games, connection games. And suddenly we will feel that it’s possible.

Besides that, now we are trying, with the cooperation of various organizations that work with this population, to open a connection program, a project for recovery in areas where there are lots of unemployed people who are in a very difficult economic situation. This is to reach this kind of area and propose: “Come, let’s get organized.” We can create together warehouses for excess clothing, household tools, toys, bicycles, and bulk purchased food warehouses, etc. We will be able to buy at wholesale price, which will be much cheaper.

We can come together as consumers of electricity to sign a separate agreement with the company that supplies electricity. We can do everything, if we connect.

We can unite in this area and act. We can dictate our conditions to all of those who gain from us, and in this way everyone can benefit from it.

We can organize extracurricular activities for our children since among us will be volunteers who presently don’t work. They can work as organizers of these activities for the children, etc.

If we connect, then we can find virtually unlimited resources in order to make life easier for ourselves. No one will take care of us; we need to go out to the people with this.

Of course, we need to think about this since in the future it will be necessary. The Creator will put us in such a state that everyone will begin to understand that there is no way out, only through connection will we reach success.
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From the Kharkov Convention “Uniting to Ascend” 8/18/12, Lesson 4

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Question: Lately you have been directing the men not only to work in the group, but also to work with their wives. Is there a difference from the spiritual viewpoint between a man’s work with a man, a man with a woman, the male part with the female part, or my work with the external world?

Answer: In the meantime yes. All of them are on different levels and I exist in different relationships with them. Nevertheless, we begin from the corporeal, mutual relationships. We are still not disconnected from each other so that I would see only the soul in you. You are a woman. You constitute a part of some group. You have a name of your own, your problems, and your activities. This means that one has to take into account, all that surrounds you. It is also the same thing with the friends.

We exist in a certain framework; we can’t hover in the clouds and detach ourselves from the external sheath. Thus it imposes on us certain commitments. This outer sheath speaks about our special and exact things: man and woman. This is a very strict division in nature according to all the natural functions and we must take this into consideration.

Question: This is about the corporeal world. But from the viewpoint of spirituality, there is only reception and bestowal. Is there a difference in the relation to reception and bestowal? With whom do I participate in a mutual way: with a man, with a woman, or with the external world?

Answer: It depends on what level you are on. If you are already above the level of Hafetz Hesed, that is, bestowal for the sake of bestowal, above the attribute of Bina, then there’s no difference. And until that level, there is a difference.
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From the Kharkov Convention “Uniting to Ascend” 8/18/12, Lesson 4

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Throughout the seminar, each group, each circle, must find a question that he would like to ask. Discuss it among yourselves, come to the state when this is really a very important question for you, the most important one, which you all agree to clarify from the bottom of your heart, and that is exactly the question you want to ask.

Do not yield to your friends now, like we usually do it, saying: “They are great, they are big, they know better; I bow before what I hear from them.” Here, it is the opposite: “No, I believe that my opinion is more important.” I want to captivate them with my opinion instead of our common work. So in no way can there be any concessions here, but on the contrary, the realization of the brightest prayer, its peak: what we should really ask! And it should be of the feelings and of the mind. It must combine everything that we really need in it.

“Chew it thoroughly,” analyze what you will ask for. Do as in a fairy tale: You are given one wish, once you will say it, it will be implemented!

Afterward, we will try to hear and possibly unite all of these desires. We will write them out, connect them all together, try to find what is the most common among them, and that will actually already be a collective prayer.

Most importantly, express yourself concisely, coherently, clearly, so that it will just break the heart!

First of all, we need to warm the hearts up so that they all become soft, melt, and unite into one. Then it will be possible to come to the collective agreement about what is important for us.
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From the Kharkov Convention “Uniting to Ascend” 8/17/12, Workshop 3

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In the previous workshop we reached the conclusion that we cannot do anything by ourselves. We tried to do everything in our power, but it led to nothing. That’s true! It led to nothing! There is no hope that it will lead to something! Why? Because we actually have no powers. Those who say that we cannot do anything are actually stating a fact.

We are merely egoists, and we can only work within our ego. We cannot do anything outside the ego; it isn’t in our power. We cannot do anything above the ego; we cannot actually advance and get closer to someone else. We can only do that when we see some benefit in it.

What can we do? Ask the Creator! Nothing else can help us since it is the only force in the world that does anything. We were given the chance to discover this, to discover that He is the only force that operates and no one else.

So all our work comes down to a request to attain a desire that will really oblige Him to help us.

But it isn’t easy to reach such a desire. It grows gradually. We have to think about when it will grow so that we will shout; we have to ask for it each time. This request should include all our desires, including the smallest ones, no matter what they may be.

They are not real intentionally, just like kids who whine, cry, and weep and get what they want no matter what by using our love for them. We have to behave in the same way with the Creator, to learn from this world how we should behave.

All the requests, the demands, the begging, and the pleading are generally called “prayer.”

A prayer is also a feeling in the heart. In fact, it isn’t a request but a feeling in the heart when a person checks himself and no matter what he sees he wants to turn to the Creator with what is in his heart. No matter if it is good or bad, no matter what: Take it and do what You have to do with me!

There can be different prayers: serious prayers and less serious ones, emphatic prayers, whatever; what is important is to pray. Everything is attained only by the power of a prayer, the power of the request. The stronger it is, the more firm it is, the more insistent it is, the better.
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From the Kharkov Convention “Uniting to Ascend” 8/17/12, Workshop 3

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