Question: In discussing child education two to three years ago, I brought up a book by G.B. Oster, Bad Advice. In this book, the author teaches good things through a paradox, in a deformed way, such as hit the grandmother, take the candy, and so on. Why is this method considered wrong from the perspective of integration?

Answer: Because people who hear and absorb the negative information paint the images inside themselves against their will. Negative fragments remain in them, which later enable them to act. It does not matter that at this moment the person disagrees with it, this fragment, this image, this action still registers in them. I think that this is not the way to work.

It is very difficult for a person to work from a negative example. This requires a special analysis, the strength to ascend, overcome, and recognize evil, to bring goodness opposite the evil, to understand what needs to be done to rise above evil, and to build a good attitude, which is opposite to evil; in other words, to completely invert it in the opposite direction. This requires a great effort and mind. A regular person cannot just do it.

Let him try to do something positive instead of doing something negative, not just in colors but in expressions and poses. Let him “transfer” not just the smile or an evil expression from one image to another, but also with postures, gestures, correspondence between the bodies, and so on.

A person does not understand how comprehensive the difference is between the positive and the negative. Naturally, when a person is shown a strict negative scenario, he rejects it because he does not fully like this scenario. But it becomes stored, registered somewhere in him, and the person will still use it! One cannot be taught good actions through negative examples.

Comment: There are authors in Russian society, like Mikhail Zhvanetsky, to whom people listen; they are considered to be very wise. Zhvanetsky bases his works on negative examples. He takes a certain negative situation, and, every time, he finds a funny solution, a way out of it.

Answer: With all due respect, I do not think that Zhvanetsy and other “philosophers” like him create a revolution in society. He brings out the faults of society, shows them to the people, and they like it.

This resembles the cartoon where a wolf who is not hungry eats a bunny and then sits and picks his teeth. You explain his bad action to him, and he agrees, “Yes, really…”

The audience sits and listens to its faults, but there is no result. Even though there is a certain need for this and a social demand, this is not education.

Comment: The entire underground culture of Russian intellectuals, for example, the writings of Igor Guberman, is based on the comparison of good and evil.

Answer: Between us, this is purely a Jewish approach. Raykin and everyone else also used this. This is how the Jews preserved themselves. They laughed at themselves. In this way, they defended themselves by turning everything that was negative into something positive, a joke. They made the situation better with positive emotions in order to survive everything.

I do not see this same, humorous approach among other nations. This is a consequence of exile and suffering. This philosophy belongs to an exiled, degraded people who were hit in the face and are trying to turn it into a joke because otherwise the situation would be very painful to them. In other words, this philosophy does not lead to a change in the society.
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From a “Talk on Integral Upbringing” 5/28/12

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Question: At the turn of the 20^th to the 21^st century, society chose a certain form of suppression as a way to defend themselves against the growth of linear egoism. This is the way we raise children: We forbid them to speak loudly, express their feelings, and so on. The majority of methods of psychotherapy are based on helping people rid themselves of these barriers and at least begin with freeing a person’s reaction. In the integral method, can a person actualize himself when he rejects this level and aspires toward unity?

Answer: During a class of integral upbringing, we offer the students: “Friends, let us sit in a circle and play a game. Let us be like children because this is a new level where we need to be born. Let us hold hands, touch knees, and look kindly at one another. We are the first to discover this next level. Let us try to pretend we are there. A child grows when he plays, we also want to grow, and, if we will feel all important and so inflated, we will have no other choice but to explode. We will not find anything else.”

In other words, you introduce a very positive, childish learning environment where people can allow themselves to say foolish things, to search, and the main thing is that they really will be able to find completely new relationships and solutions in this new kind communication. What else do we need?
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From a “Talk on Integral Upbringing” 5/28/12

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Question: Today people speak a lot about women being downtrodden, oppressed, etc., but no one speaks about the fact that men also are a pitiful sight.

On one hand, he is essentially oppressed in his family; he has no role. On the other hand, he must provide for the family and bring everything the family needs. But the needs have reached a point where not too many men are able to satisfy this need. Moreover, the crisis is making it so that even the things that a man was able to do before, he is no longer capable of doing. As a consequence, he wants to be rude, violent, beat his wife, etc.

Answer: We are in a state that can explode. This is why this problem needs to be solved as a group, integrally: open courses at universities, on television, through housing boards, community centers, night schools, etc.

In other words, we must educate! First of all, we must educate women, because they will take the education further. Second, the same problem must be solved with men in a group who must be “forced” to attend a course.

We must lift people from the animate level to the “Human” level, because today they are a pitiful sight.

Women are better adapted, more capable and ready for changes, because they have a maternal instinct, a strong drive to live, and to survive no matter what. Overall, the woman is a strong element, and the man is a weak element, and he simply needs to be well organized.

There should be no parasites or loafers. If a person does not work, he needs to study. And a working person still needs to study, in the workplace, for example.

All of us need to complete a course of integral education and upbringing. Nothing can happen without it. This must become a government program. Even if it requires financial investment (I do not think it will need much), the immediate economic effect it will produce in every aspect of society will be many times more beneficial than any expenses.

The main thing is to obligate and require people to come and learn, and to not waste time. But this absolutely must be accompanied by a vast mass media campaign, advertising the method of integral learning as a national government program.

I think that this is very possible in Russia, which has such a high demand for a national idea. In general, this does not threaten the government in any way; they can continue to govern, because we are only speaking about the education of the society.
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From a “Talk on Integral Upbringing” 5/28/12

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Question: How should we build integral relations in the family? Which attributes and features are typical of man’s behavior and woman’s behavior from the integral perspective? Or perhaps there are no such discernments according to the integral method?

Answer: We have what we were given by nature. No matter how hard I try, I cannot be a woman, not in cleaning, washing, ironing, cooking, or in tidying up the whole house in ten minutes. It would take me five hours, and it would still be untidy. Nature hasn’t given man the same skills, the same attitude, the same movement towards what is called a “home.”

This is a woman’s issue, the female part, the female fate, the female area. A woman should manage the home. She should feel that she is the manager of the home and that it is hers.

A lack of education has created a totally different attitude towards the home and towards the family, but as a whole the concern for the home was given to women by nature. You can observe animals: each male mates and leaves, while the female gives birth to the offspring, takes care of them, licks and feeds them, teaches them how to hunt, how to be grown-ups, and sends them out into the world. We can see that in every species. That’s the way it is determined by nature, except perhaps for certain periods of time like when birds sit on eggs together until they hatch.

When we look at people, everything is organized this way, the man goes hunting while the woman guards the home, and you cannot escape this. The closer we are to nature, the more comfortable and pleasant we will feel and the stronger the agreement between us will be. In any case these attributes are part of us and we cannot suppress them in any way. Even if there are mutations, we still have our instincts, Hollywood, unisex, and other fashionable trends do not change a thing.

Therefore, we should arrange a place for everyone to talk about relative rights and duties, and the relationships between men and women. If we don’t have the right relationship, then there will be no family or anything except a negative population growth. So we have to put an end to this once and for all and not dance to the tune of different political parties that want to reach the government, trying to be so original by demanding rights for different groups.

I am not for limiting rights or for the oppression of any group in favor of the other. I am for learning from nature and being similar to it as much as we can; that’s all.

Second, our deck is arranged so that the man has to be the chief provider, and the woman has to take care of the family and educate the children. There is no way we can escape this! We see that if a woman doesn’t do that, then no one does. The result is that the next generation will be even worse than this generation. This means that we have to make sure that the woman will be free, not busy but actually free.

It isn’t that we lock her up in some domestic monastery or behind a locked door. On the contrary, she should study, go to the university at whatever age, and even all of her life. She should take different courses and constantly enrich her knowledge so that she will be an educational role model for her children and her husband. This means that a mother that feels as the real owner of the home should also feel that she is the backbone of the family from whom the whole family will learn about the world, about the right attitude towards life, about education, and everything else.

After all, a man is always under the influence of a woman. Who doesn’t listen to his wife and is secretly afraid of her? It is because everything comes from the mother; after all, we understand our psychology.

So it is very important that we constantly elevate the woman, educate her, and fill her. Through her, this fulfillment passes on to the rest of society. This means that she should take an active part in her own development and education, and also in the education and teaching of all the members of the family.

If we don’t have this revolution, then we will lose the family, the children, our population, society, etc. We can do all this through the woman. In order to do this, the media has to make a little effort. It should not be a government plan but a global one.
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From a “Talk on Integral Upbringing” 5/28/12

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Question: Suppose, a person walks down the street. Someone pushes him hard and “knocks” him out of a positive mindset. Today, modern man tolerates suffering and inhibits a reaction because we are taught to restrain ourselves from childhood. So conflicts rarely happen. People who restrain themselves accumulate a number of unaddressed insults that eventually burst because of some little thing; this usually occurs at home, and the accumulated aggression is dumped onto close ones. This is a typical emotional reaction mechanism of modern man. Maybe you need to respond to that push as if something positive?

Then I become happy about this effect on me because I can become even more included into this general mechanism, become even more integral,

Answer: Of course, it’s positive! I begin to perceive everything that happens as something happening for a reason in this huge enclosed mechanism. If somebody pushes me or something happens to me, it’s in this way that I’m pointed to where I can increase my contact with this general mechanism and enter even deeper into the integral relationship through this negative impact. I’m being shown my lack of my inclusion.

Then I can become happy for this effect on me because I can engage more in this general mechanism, become even more integral, and I can climb the stairs of values, visions, feelings, and awareness of the world around me, the extent of my understanding of its causal flow, its purpose, my vision and role in it. I start seeing further through time.

The fact is that the man who caused harm to me has nothing to do with it. He’s just another element in the common system, the same as I am. And I don’t react to him in any way, neither from the point of gratitude nor from the point of negative emotions. I don’t feel anything with regard to him. I look at this general mechanism that controls us, increasingly engaging us into overall interaction, and I’m extremely happy about that because I reach a new level of existence and life this way.

I need to learn and understand this system, to get a hold of it, and then the depth, which is beyond matter, beyond this tinsel in which we live and play, will unfold in front of me. I don’t want to participate in this game, but I want to be inside of the forces of the mechanism that governs all of this because in that way I’ll become eternal and perfect as the higher Nature itself.

Question: It turns out that by rising above the emerging conflicts and hatred, we reach the depth of the connection with other people. That is, this supposedly negative aggression is fuel for connection?

Answer: In general, yes. We can say that. There’s no doubt that this negative potential, which we have accumulated over the long process of our evolution, is necessary. We came all this way in order to have something to rise above.

Comment: By working with people, especially during group interactions that imply a certain level of unity, there are two stages. The first stage is a so-called positive transference when students begin saying, “What a wonderful methodology! What a wonderful teacher! What a group! How lucky we are!” And then begins a so-called negative transference.

Answer: I think there will be neither acute positive nor negative periods. There will be, of course, relative and passing undulating ups and downs so people will make progress in their understanding and sensing of this methodology and the way it works.

Here we don’t work with our past, and therefore, we prepare people for the fact that today we find a completely new level of perception with which we have nothing to compare. I don’t feel that there is a place for familiar reactions, maybe to a small extent, but not to the extent that they appear in other groups or clubs
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From a “Talk on Integral Upbringing” 5/28/12

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Question: At the outset, we need to prepare a multitude of specialists who must go to people and convey to them the method of integral upbringing. What if they encounter an opposite, negative reaction?

Answer: There will be no negative reaction since those people, whom we have gathered, have some type of a negative request, meaning they feel bad. If people have simply arrived to have a chat, then there is nothing to say. However, we are teaching those who feel bad and who have come to solve some problem. It is necessary to try to gather people who have these requests, and it doesn’t matter how different they are.

We are gathering 10, 100, or 100,000 people at one table; it doesn’t matter. They lack food, clothing, and shelter. They have problems with work, education, health, or safety. It is scary to come out into the street not only at night, but also during the day. On the whole, there are a multitude of various problems.

Naturally, nobody understands each other because each one has his or her own problem. Suppose I have a problem with a small child because he goes to a school where he is mistreated, while she has a problem in the fact that she lives alone with two children on poverty allowance, a totally different problem. A third one is a bachelor and is unemployed. And so on.

However, we are not interested in what problems they have! We do not discuss which of their problems is more important because for each one of them, their problem is the most important one.

“I receive an unemployment allowance, I can live on it, but I want to earn properly, to work, to fly to the Canary Islands, spend every evening at night clubs. But what am I able to do now? Pay for medical insurance, feed myself, pay for my corner and that’s it. I don’t want to exist this way because I have my whole life in front of me! What have I gotten into? Why is it so? Is this life when I see how beautifully other people live!”

Meaning that you will not prove anything to him! Although 100 years ago, such a life would have been envied: a corner, insurance, food, what else is needed? Take an African person today, put him in prison and he will be satisfied, there is a roof, he gets food and does not become ill. And there is nothing demanded of him. It is simply a first class hotel!

That is why we cannot compare different people with each other, and we are trying to do that! How can they be compared? Each one of them has a completely different need. If I am hungry now, then I don’t need a symphony. This is clear.

So we absolutely do not touch on the character of their needs. We must simply convince people of the fact that it is only possible to satisfy all of their needs if we come to an integral society, only if we will exist in mutual guarantee; otherwise, we will neither fulfill each other, nor ourselves.

This is the most important thing the lecturers must talk about: pulling man away from his current needs, “Wait a little bit with them! You won’t be able to solve all of the problems directly anyway.”

There is no direct solution to these questions anywhere in the world! Let’s take away from the rich and give to the poor, but we see what turns out from that! Let’s break windows and kill the government, we also see that this does not work. Problems are not solved this way, especially in our time.

And they have never been solved this way! You may take over the Bastille, but what’s the use? The French Revolution has been done, and what did all of this freedom end up with?

However, this was before, in the linear development of egoism!

Today, when nature presents itself to us as integral, this does not work any more! We see that those with money, the government, the banks, and everywhere are trying to do something. They understand that they are also in a critical condition. Where will they go from this planet, from Earth? It is round! Whatever they have stockpiled, they still don’t know what to do.

That is why, let us first simply figure out what is going on, what system is starting to emerge in nature and is controlling us, what is the meaning of a global, integral, analog, interconnected system? Let’s first listen to the scientists.

And here I open a folder and show them the videos with the opinions of the scientists about our society, about where we have ended up, in order for it to be clear to everyone that we cannot continue to search further for something with our egoistic instruments as it has been up to now.

The G8 and the G20 are searching, but they cannot find anything! They are only aggravating the problems and accumulating debt, which will have to be answered for; by whom and how, it is not clear! Who will be writing them off?

We are standing in front of a threat of a serious crash, which we have gotten ourselves into by ourselves; by not seeing the next level, we are trying to solve everything on our level where there is no solution. We must show this with the help of scientists, with the help of well-developed methodology.

Comment: Each time I am trying to figure out this problematic place…

Answer: It is not problematic! You must simply put down the line and say: “We have existed up to this moment. Further, on the same level, on the same plane, there is no solution. Or do you want to continue sorting things out among each other? Go ahead! Go outside the gates and do what you want: Have demonstrations; break shop windows! But I do not participate in this. Why? Because I and 100,000 more scientists have a different opinion. If you want to have revolutions, go to the barricades, please! But I am not going.”

We must put them into that position where they really look at things, and we are offering them the only real hard option. No more!
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From a “Talk on Integral Upbringing” 5/28/12

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If we could turn on our inner sight (like an x-ray), then we would discover a giant information network, which connects all the inhabitants of the world.

We need to reinforce the unacceptability of strict and one-sided criterion. In the past, there was the globalization of countries, then the globalization of corporations, and now there is the globalization of people in small societies. And as long as we divert our opinions to general questions about politics and economy, we divert ourselves from what’s important, from the integrality of the world.

The economy, is to maintain the life of the living or social body. The more complex the object is, then the amount of the interrelationships in its body are greater, as well is the density of its communication and reciprocal relations. Their knowledge is needed for modern financial management, for support in living, and the results of the lack of this information is the entire reason of our failures and of the crisis.

And in countries that still haven’t developed such connections, they still don’t feel themselves in a crisis, but they will come to it also. And if we invent our own laws, we, as if, erect walls on the way to the natural connections of society, and in the end, we cancel the natural connection and the development.

Without a doubt, all the objections to integration, the organization of all kinds of coalitions and alliances, are against social development and the plan of nature, and thus will bring its participants to their downfall.

At the basis of integration stands the aspiration of the unique upper force of nature which brings everyone to one form, to consolidation, to participation, to unity, to mutual understanding, to upper justice. Thus, the various kinds of private forms of alliances will discover their lack of coordination to the general nature and will force the creators of the alliances, in one way or another, to turn to complete integrality.

Thus, the entire system of new values, the principle and secondary ones, also those of individuals and of the society, will need to be built in coordination with natural priorities, which will bring civilization to harmony and unity.

To clarify the priorities, it is important to hold discussions and forums and to hear public opinion, but not for the purpose of changing the priorities which are determined by nature and were transmitted to us by the Kabbalists, but only in clarifying the level of development of the society and correction of its integral upbringing.
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Question: Should the participants in the first course of integral education know about the distant limits of the evolution of human awareness, about the new mutual relations, or about how new opportunities are revealed when moving in the same direction?

Answer: I don’t think so, what for? In the first course people are told about the history of the egoistic evolution of humanity, that the ego has reached its limits and there is nothing ahead. Nature, it turns out, is integral, and humanity has become integral. Only we humans are not integrally connected to each other, and so we feel a crisis, a state of both inner and external material emptiness. Then we must talk about the integrality of nature, which is a closed system, about its systems of mutual provision, mutual support, about the analog system, etc. We should educate people about what this system provides us with.

Here we put them through a roundtable workshop or simply a circle. They must feel that the force of unity and connection revealed among us creates something that is totally new, which allows them to feel, to dare, to be filled, and most importantly, to understand and explore our world and everything else directly through it.

Suddenly new options are revealed, and they begin to see that there is a greater chance in that, but they discover it by themselves. Why do we need that? So that it will not seem farfetched and unbelievable, or even mystical and imaginary. It is best to bring them consistently and wisely to the point where they can actually feel. After all, if a person is actually just an organ that wants filling since we all simply want to fill ourselves no matter what, and then we suddenly begin to feel that there are opportunities here and we don’t need anything else.

Later, while working in the group and listening to lectures, a person begins to understand where he is in his current state, then it is easier for him to understand his past state. Everything humanity has been through becomes very simple, a short egoistic period of development. After all, what are 100 – 200 – 300 million years?
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From a “Talk on Integral Upbringing” 5/25/12

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Opinion (from Comstock Partners): “The U.S economy has been slowing in the last two or three months. Either downside surprises or actual declines have been reported in key economic indicators relating to consumer spending, new orders, production and employment. …

“The Chinese economy is slowing, perhaps by more than the official numbers show. … China’s economic model is heavily dependent on capital investments and exports, while internal consumer spending remains a relatively small part of GDP. … All in all, it seems that it will be difficult to avoid a hard landing.

“The slowdown in Europe, the U.S. and China is also impacting the economies of the emerging nations, which are heavily dependent on exports. Declining growth is also driving down commodity prices. Despite all of the talk of decoupling, it seems apparent that the economies of all nations are linked and that there is little prospect of an oasis of prosperity in an increasingly dependent world. …

“Unfortunately, the monetary and fiscal authorities are out of ammunition. … We believe that the April 2nd peak in the S&P 500 marked the top of the uptrend from the March 2009 lows, and that a major market decline is ahead.”

My Comment: Not a single expert has a plan of getting out of the general crisis because it is total, multi-faceted, and interrelated. The world has become interconnected and requires a similar interconnected approach. It can be provided only by an integrally organized community that has a feeling and understanding of the interconnected world.

Of course, it is possible to continue the attempts to lead this world in an egoistic, protectionist manner, but this promises huge suffering that will bring us to the need to change ourselves to survive in the new interrelated world. We will not manage without implementing mandatory integral education and upbringing for the population, and the sooner we realize this, the less damage the exit of the crisis will cause us.
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Question: We talked about the fact that humanity ran out of steam. I played sports and remember a wonderful state, the so-called second breath, when you run and suddenly some kind of lightness appears. Can we talk about the second breath in relation to the method of integral upbringing, or just about the fact that a person who stops running literally starts to fly?

Answer: Of course the feeling of detachment, fatigue, lack of motivation in the egoism, and feeling, or at least understanding, that continuing to work is impossible, hopeless is necessary on one hand. But on the other hand, when a person starts working, based on this new integral methodology he encounters various inverse transitions; he rises and falls because he must constantly feel himself in and out of the circle and in and out of the circle again. These are start-stop, back-and-forth motions, like that of a piston when it is pushed out, it gets out, or pushed in is included. It is this way these two lines work. One line works by pushing the man egoistically, by adding even more egoism to him, and then he inevitably falls out of unity. However, he gradually comes back into it, so he goes forward and rises again.

As a result, he climbs the ladder of spiritual values that are in even stronger and stronger connection. He climbs 125 degrees and reaches his perfection when all of nature: the still, vegetative, animate, and human degrees, which doesn’t exist in our world as we mistakenly call ourselves human (separating ourselves from the animal world), exist for him in one perpetual volume. An eternal one! Because by ascending these degrees, he perceives nature in a form in which it actually exists. That is, we go beyond what is called the universe, beyond the space created by the Big Bang, and this space is no longer physical.

This is already a subject of disclosure and study for those people who will start rising. But this of course is practical attainment.
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From a “Talk on Integral Upbringing” 5/25/12

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