Question: What is the purpose of the whole huge system of upbringing and education?

Answer: It is spinning around us on its own, and that is all. We cannot do anything about it. You cannot instill anything into a child, just the surrounding, friends, and educators to some extent as well, can. All of this creates the child’s inner world who then enters life. And going forward he already begins to take from life.

Question: What is upbringing in your opinion? You have pushed the education part back a bit.

Answer: First of all, education and upbringing are not the same thing. Education is a filling of a child with all sorts of knowledge. Whereas, upbringing is an example from an adult to a child about how to behave in various situations.

Question: Is an adult an educator, a parent, the environment, and so forth?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Then it turns out that the correct upbringing is to submerge a child in an environment that gives the correct examples. What examples should we show to a child so this child would grow correctly and would be receiving the correct upbringing?

Answer: It is impossible to say. The child himself selects these examples and assimilates them.

Question: I show an example to him, but perhaps he takes from it something of his own from it, something only he understands?

Answer: Yes.

Question: How can I penetrate this world of a child?

Answer: There is no need to! There is no way to! Let him develop independently.

Comment: But I have to somehow direct him.

My Response: I think it is not so necessary. Let him run around the yard and interact with his peers, and he will develop this way.

Question: Is the child supposed to have an ideal surrounding so he would grow up within it?

Answer: Children and animals.

Question: So there are children and animals around, but where is the place for an adult?

Answer: There is no place for an adult there. Adults will impose all sorts of behavioral rules on children. There is no need for this. Gradually a child will grow and he will discover these rules for himself.

Question: Shouldn’t an adult intervene in children’s conflicts?

Answer: No, I think there is no place for educators here.

Question: Then what will grow from the child if you say he is surrounded by children, animals, and nature?

Answer: According to his inner world he absorbs everything that is possible to receive from the world.

Comment: There is drawing, dancing, and nature studies. It happens that the adult comes and says “Let me teach the child these things.”

My Response: There is no need to! He will learn by himself. All these disciplines imposed on him just limit him.

Question: I am talking about simple disciplines like dancing and  drawing. Will he master even this?

Answer: Yes.

Question: Can we draw any conclusions?

Answer: The conclusion is very simple: Leave the children alone, leave them free of your great thoughts and instructions, pedagogy, and everything, everything that is in you.

Question: Then what about parents? Parents and adults still exist. How should parents properly bring up their children?

Answer: After many hundreds of generations, I do not see in any generation that some generation has taken something useful and good from their parents, and achieved something useful and good. Every time we just relearn.

Question: So you learn from your own mistakes, you learn from your life, you learn everything by yourself. And you say that we should leave a person with this “yourself,” leave him to go his own way?

Answer: Yes, I hope that we will come to such a state when we understand how we should treat children in general. I hope this will be understood and realized in the near future.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman,” 11/9/25

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