To people who dwell within the desires of “slaves,” “children,” or “women,” the method must be explained gently, that is, in a way that the will to receive feels as though it is moving toward fulfillment, toward pleasure, toward what currently seems to it to be good.

But why do we play what seems like a kind of false game with those who are in these states? Because we know that by tempting them with today’s fulfillments, with these little “gifts,” things that the will to receive currently wants, we are, in fact, growing this desire, and it develops.

And as it develops, it reaches states in which the part of Bina within it begins to grow. Bina means “understanding,” from the word “Avana”—reason, critical analysis.

A person, besides his Malchut, besides the desire, begins to develop a part of Bina, and then, in the connection and clash between them, he begins to understand his state and analyze it, to the extent possible, from the perspective of Bina, which means more objectively, independently of Malchut, of the will to receive.

At that point, a person changes even his fulfillments; he begins to want something else. After playing various games, a child comes to understand that he wants not only games, but something more serious, and more and more so. For example, a girl wants to play with a doll, but not with a baby. Even though the baby is real, the doll suits her. It is the form of her pleasure. But for a mother, a doll will not do; she wants a living baby. That is her “game.” To each their own.

So it turns out we are seemingly lying to the will to receive and to the people who are with us at their first lecture or in their first year of study, and we tell them that everything will be fine.

Of course, we are not lying about the fact that it will be fine, but it will be fine, not for the vessels (Kelim) that they have now, but for the ones that will grow. And for the current vessels, you give some candy, a game of hide-and-seek, a car, or something else, for them that is good. So give them that now. Each time, give them these baits so they will keep progressing.
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From the 1^st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 5/13/2025, Writings of Baal HaSulam “The Arvut (Mutual Guarantee)”

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