The fact is that the feeling of exile is caused by the exile from the spiritual world. Therefore, only a person who yearns for spirituality can gradually realize that he is not in it because there are egoistic forces in him that hold him captive and do not allow him to enter spiritual qualities. Thus, he discovers that he is under the rule of Pharaoh, the king of Egypt.
It will take a long time before a person begins to notice that his whole life is controlled by the egoistic desire that does not allow him to bestow, to come closer to the friends and closer to the Creator, to treat everyone with love, to return to the state of a single soul as it was before the shattering of Adam HaRishon. This is what defines the exile, and the intensity of it is also different for each and every one.
There are people who do not feel they are in exile from spirituality at all. They just feel bad in this world because of various problems, but this is not yet considered exile. Exile means separation from bestowal, connection, love. If a person does not yearn for this, then he does not feel that he is lacking it, which means that he does not feel himself in exile.
Therefore, we need to clarify whether we are in Egypt, in exile from spirituality, from bestowal, connection, and love, or not. You cannot just say “I am in exile” if you do not feel suffering. If I suffer from the fact that I am in egoism and think only about myself and not about the friends and the Creator, then I feel that I am in exile.
After all, I would very much like to rise above these thoughts and worries only about myself and to care about my neighbor, but I am not able to do this. This is the feeling of exile. The more I suffer from the exile, the more I will be able to enjoy the exit from it and the redemption.
From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/12/21, “Pesach (Passover)”