States in which I advance must always be aimed only for bestowal and not for my own sake.
On the spiritual path, man is in a very interesting state. On one hand, I am alone and the whole world is inside me, as it is said: “Man is a small world.”
On the other hand, all my internal desires seem to me as attributes that exist outside of me. It is the same with regard to my like-minded friends, it seems to me that they exist outside of me, and I later gradually begin to see that all of them are within me.
Therefore, they are my neighbors. I must work at the degree of bestowal on all their desires, called “wives,” (their female part, the will to receive) when I clothe in them, that is, for their sake.
This is what means not to covet my neighbor’s wife. I only work at the degree of “love your neighbor as yourself.” This is already a more serious system.
After all, the ten commandments of the Torah are at the level of the ten Sefirot. The commandment “You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife” is the most serious of them because it deals with the lowest internal egoistic quality. By the way, it has nothing to do with the egoism in our world and the physical states between the genders.
It is about the way we can fully direct our egoism toward the intention for bestowal to the common connection between us at the upper level where there is no longer any division by gender. After all, men and women are desires and intentions and not corporeal qualities.
From Kab TV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 3/16/16