Question: According to the law of mutual guarantee, it turns out that everyone can change the fate of the other, but no one can ever change their own fate. It is interesting to understand how a person can interfere in the fate of the other person? Is this a special methodology?
Answer: Yes. In fact, we are one common spiritual body and are absolutely integrated with each other. I cannot change myself, but I can influence the other, and the other can influence me. This way, in a state of mutual guarantee, we can “spoon-feed” each other.
Question: Does a person still begin with the fact that he wants to change himself?
Answer: Naturally. For this, he goes to bestow, to influence others. He has no other choice.
From KabTV’s “Ask a Kabbalist” 12/31/18