Answer: Yes, everything is supported by personal example. Show a child an example. Say what you are doing, treat him as a friend. And then you will see how everything will flow to him.
Question: If I have to show the child a kind attitude, how can I punish him for an offense?
Answer: You must explain why you are doing this. For example, tell him: “Sitting within you is a little imp that must be limited. What will we do with it? Give me some advice about what must be done to help you rein in this demon and not let him go free.”
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 1/8/17