Torah, Deuteronomy, 21:15-17: If a man has two wives, the one loved and the other unloved, and both the loved and the unloved have borne him sons, if the firstborn son belongs to the unloved, then it shall be in the day he wills what he has to his sons, he cannot make the son of the loved the firstborn before the son of the unloved, who is the firstborn.
But he shall acknowledge the firstborn, the son of the unloved, by giving him a double portion of all that he has, for he is the beginning of his strength; to him belongs the right of the firstborn.
Everything that is said in the Torah must be understood in the spiritual and not material sense: as if I like this baby, and the other one less, or that this is a beloved wife, and the other one not.
At the spiritual level, everything happens in a completely different way. My favorite desires are egoistically closer to me. Unloved desires make me work harder and therefore, the firstborn comes exactly from them. This is my strength.
The “firstborn” is higher and stronger than what comes from a weak desire that I love, so contrary to all kinds of egoistic calculations, I should prefer a desire that originates in a more serious egoistic layer.
My “unloved wife” is complex, integrated, difficult, and has a tough character. It is my very strong egoistic quality and therefore, with its help I can attain a greater spiritual height.
However, I need to work on it, overcome myself, and that is why I have to take up precisely the unloved desire, raising myself above my egoistic qualities only to the act that draws me closer to the Creator and pushes me higher and further away from my egoism. Naturally, the unloved son gives a greater ascent, a greater elation. For this very reason it should be preferred.
Question: Is this the root for enemies eventually becoming closest people to me?
Answer: Of course. And vice versa, it is said that those living in your house will be your enemies because with your enemies, you have to work harder and correspondingly, you ascend higher.
From KavTv’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book”, 9/26/16