Question: Hatred is our natural state we are accustomed to living with. If I have an aversion to someone, I always can justify myself, and the thought that I need to love him awakens resistance in me. How can one leave hatred and rise above the ego?
It could be that this is the only stumbling block that disturbs our connection. One must not remain with this.
The entire group should connect with a prayer about how to ask the Creator to grant you love for a friend. Maybe, in the meantime, this is not love, but you look at him as someone who is close to you because you have revealed the connection between you and the Creator. Ask the Creator not to remain blind to this, and begin to feel that, specifically here, between the friend and you, the revelation of the Creator will be discovered.
From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/24/14, Questions and Answers with Dr. Laitman