Answer: The main reason for that is laziness. He doesn’t make sure that the friends awaken him and obligate him. After several unsuccessful attempts, the society stops paying attention to him; it’s not obligated to deal with him forever.
It has to call on him twice, like in the example from the Talmud of the donkey that falls and that is helped to rise twice. If this doesn’t help then that’s it. He can’t ask the group to constantly pull him forward, since they have their own work among them.
They tried to revive him once, but he didn’t wake up, and they tried a second time, and again it didn’t work, so there is no third try. If he wants to leave, let him. We have to write our protocol and determine the attitude to the friends according to these conditions.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 12/23/12, “The Introduction to the Study of the Ten Sefirot”