Question: If a person falls out of the common circle, won’t this break the union of friends?
Answer: For now I still don’t see that people’s deeds indicate that a union has been made…. There are clear principles regarding this.
First of all: Does a person constantly worry about strengthening the group? Does he worry about the intention of his friends? Does he want them to be in ascent and to feel confident that they will attain the goal? Is he fighting himself for all of this?
And secondly: Does he actually raise his friends’ mood? Does he give them the confidence and realization that the goal is important?
You can tell by a person that he does this not only when he feels good, but in all the states, even if he is tired or devoid of any strength. Seeing his own lack of power, he turns to the group once again and tries to receive forces from it.
The problem is not that he feels bad and wants to raise his spirits, but that the bad mood does not enable him to strengthen the group and carry out the union. Therefore, even when he is devoid of strength, he turns to the friends, but not for his own sake, but because it hurts him that he cannot serve them while in this state.
There are other, clearer signs as well: How much does he care to ensure that the group has the most comfortable order of study and the best organization of all matters so it will advance on the spiritual path easier and faster? Does he care about this from the bottom of his heart or treat it formally as a duty?
This is something you can’t hide. You can tell how important the group and the goal are to a person.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/24/10, Writings of Rabash