Question: All parents want to bring up their children so they would grow up to be good, successful, educated people. But you say that the old method of upbringing does not work and we need new tools. What is this new upbringing?

Answer: First of all, we need, not the “new” upbringing, but simply “upbringing,” because the old upbringing does not exist. Currently we do not have any upbringing; we do not form a person. Therefore we cannot call the education that currently exists in Israel and in the entire world as a system of upbringing.

We deceive ourselves by thinking that we send our children to school to give them upbringing. The school does not bring them up. In school, children gain harmful examples, and the school cares only about grades, while it is not teachers’ concern how a child will behave.

Everyone will agree that at home children usually do not receive bad examples with the rare exception of the most dysfunctional families. Where do teenagers get bad habits? It is either from the Internet or from school, meaning from an outside influence. Therefore we need to take care of external influences so they would be positive rather than negative.

School is not engaged whatsoever in children’s upbringing. We need new tools of upbringing in order to transform school into a place where a person receives upbringing and not simply a place that gives him knowledge. Then we will see how our children will change for the better and be able to connect with one another and build a better, more humane world.

They will be able to build a family and have access to any information on the Internet. We must give them more knowledge about human being, about the human body, about genders, but in a correct and open form.

At the same time as the child receives information from outside, it is necessary to add explanations so they understand why they get such desires and thoughts.

We should not shame them, but talk with them in an easy way without embarrassment, correctly and openly so the child doesn’t withdraw within himself not knowing how to control his nature. The mutual work of parents, psychologists, and specialists is required here.

Question: The department of education has all the resources: psychologists, teachers, parents’ support, and a huge budget. Why are there no good results?

Answer: Today I do not see such specialists in school who would be able to form good people from today’s generation. Where can we see the results of school’s education?

Comment: My daughter is in the 11^th grade and every day they keep her in school until 4 pm and occasionally until 6 pm. It costs the government a lot of money.

My Response: But there is no need for all of this. I need my daughter in the 11^th grade to spend half of the time she spends in school on studying how to form a person within herself, how to build her environment, her family, and how to become a person who feels good in a good world.

A school doesn’t deal with this at all. It only teaches math, physics, biology, meaning, it prepares a child for college, in other words, how to earn money. Therefore we receive such results.
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From the program on radio station 103FM, 1/8/16

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