We must somehow cultivate in ourselves a preliminary desire for unity, for love. This is done with the help of the light. Initially, we do not have such a desire. But if you wish, the light will do it.

But how can you want something that you cannot wish for? For this, you are given the group. You can tune yourself so that it artificially influences you.

What does the group want? The group does not want any ascent either. But it will methodically train you all the time, saying: “If you bestow, we will respect you, if you think about us, we will love you, if you are a good friend, we will play with you,” and so on.

In other words, you have no other choice. You are a social being; you cannot exist without an environment. The Creator has ignited a point in your heart—the desire to be in this society. So you must, together with the group, engage in a kind of a game where you deceive each other. But this deception, whether you want it or not, will be perceived by you as absolutely real.

For example, the group might say: “We have now agreed among us to value spiritual elevation, which consists of bestowal and love. If you truly want to bestow to us, to love us, we will value that in you. Otherwise, you are not our friend, and you should not come near us.”

You might say to them: “Guys, but you do not have this either! Do you really love me? Do you promise to be good to me?” They might even reply: “We promise you nothing.”

But if they are willing to position themselves this way before you, then you will begin to desire it: “Why don’t I have the quality of bestowal and love?”
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From KabTV’s “I Got A Call. Virtual Community, Part 1” 5/16/10

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