Comment: In Japan, there was a case where a little girl was growing up in a single-parent family. After she started school, she became withdrawn. It turned out that she was being bullied because her classmates teased her for not having a father.

The mother was deeply concerned. The teachers did not help, so she turned to an agency that provides “rent-a-hero” services. She chose one candidate—a kind, positive, and caring man. As an actor, he fully embraced the role of a father and played it for the girl for ten years.

On weekends, they went to the movies, parks, and walks, talked together, and even attended parent-teacher meetings. Over time, it was clear that the girl, once shy and withdrawn, blossomed and became more confident.

Thus, a new trend emerged: “fathers for rent”—fake fathers who, by taking on the role, provide both children and adults with a sense of security and supportive surroundings.

My Response: We understand how important this is for a child. At the same time, it can also be deeply significant for the woman—the mother of that child.

Interestingly, these relationships can sometimes be deeper and closer than natural family bonds. When something is “yours,” it can often lead to complacency and neglect. Who really pays attention to one another? You come home, kick off your shoes, sit down at the table or in your favorite chair, and life goes on.

But here, the emotional distance fosters a special closeness, one that is not just monitored, but actively nurtured and strengthened. This dynamic can be far more meaningful than relationships in a typical marriage.

As a result, a very interesting relationship can develop between them, not even intimate, but purely internal support, precisely due to the fact that they are not husband and wife, but simply “collaborators” to create a special family relationship.

Comment: The fake father told the girl he loved her, although inside he understood it was a conflict, that it really wasn’t the case. But what he told her emotionally, by getting involved at this state, helped not only their relationship,  but also the child’s development.

My Response: Do we have the right to treat a child this way? To lie to them?

Comment: Yes, because the consequences can vary. He said, “Ten years have passed, and I understand what might happen if the truth comes out. Eighty percent of me believes the girl will be grateful for all the care and attention I gave her. Twenty percent of me fears she will feel devastated, lost, and broken.”

My Response: He must stay with her until she gets married and he is “replaced” by her husband. He has to support her until she has another man in her life because, at the moment, he is filling the roles of father, man, and husband—everything. He cannot just leave her.

Comment: There is another trend where elderly men are hired as mentors. They are invited to accompany young people because they can pass on experience and wisdom.

My Response: I support this. It is something our society needs because no one in childhood receives proper guidance from their parents. This is a methodology, a philosophy of acceptance of life and the proper adaptation to it. Modern children do not have this. They have no source for it, not from TV, not from computers, not from school, nor from anywhere.

Question: What institutions should surround a person to help them grow into a well-rounded individual?

Answer: They need a clear and consistent educational program conducted by capable teachers, mentors, and educators.

When family, society, the peer group, and the media all work in harmony, only then can a person be raised properly.

Question: What values should they instill?

Answer: The right behavior within the “human pack.” Ideally, this should be taught at the instinctive level.

Question: What rules should exist in a “human pack”?

Answer: Homo homini lupus est, “man is a wolf to man,” only the other way around.

Teach people to live as a pack where everyone supports each other and understands the importance of each individual. Each person carries a social or family responsibility that makes everyone significant. Wolves, for instance, live exceptionally well within their packs.

Question: Could we conclude by saying, “Be a wolf to be human”?

Answer: Yes, being a wolf is great; you will know how to behave in a pack. It is a wonderful dynamic where there is a clear hierarchy, parents at the top, children below, grandchildren further down, and so on. But everyone takes care of one another, from the bottom up.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 12/22/18

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