Michael Laitman, On Quora: “How does a good supportive connection work?“
A good supportive connection works when we share the good and the bad with others, and then we feel the burden from the good and the bad as more moderate and bearable. By doing so, we gain the strength to continue living. There is a saying that someone who visits an ill person takes a part of the illness upon themselves.
If we support each other, then we share an inner connection in our desires, because we are made of desire. If our desires are connected, we pass the fulfillment that exists in the desire to each other. A desire is like a vessel, and if we support each other, then it is as if we pour the fulfillment that exists in the desire into each other’s vessels. Whether the attitude is toward an illness, life, children or anything else, each person in a good supportive connection gains a mixed kind of fulfillment as a result, which gives us the strength to take more weight onto our shoulders.
Through such supportive relations, we integrate with each other, and include several people into our connection. We can then live our lives through others.
The one who gives support builds a copy of the other person in himself, which gives him the ability to grow. That is, the one who provides the support in such a connection finishes building himself on the current degree, and he can then rise to the next degree. He receives more importance in life and in what he does. He then has more strength to develop as a human being in the fullest sense of the term, i.e. as one who is positively connected to others and who feels not only his own individual life, but the life of a much wider circle of people connected together.
Based on the video “How a Good Supportive Connection Works” with Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman and Oren Levi. Written/edited by students of Kabbalist Dr. Michael Laitman.