Torah, Deuteronomy 22:23 – 22:24: If there is a virgin girl betrothed to a man, and [another] man finds her in the city, and lies with her, you shall take them both out to the gate of that city, and you shall pelt them with stones, and they shall die: the girl, because she did not cry out [even though she was] in the city, and the man, because he violated his neighbor’s wife. So shall you clear away the evil from among you.
This is an example of how a person’s actions do not correspond to his intention and desire. They do not match each other, and therefore correction can only be through renunciation. Such dead actions have no continuation in spirituality, and therefore these desires must “die.” Death usually occurs through stoning because desires fall in the Lev HaEven (stony heart).
Question: What does it mean that the intention decides to connect with such a desire?
Answer: It seems to a person that by working with this desire he will be able to get a little closer to the Creator. He thinks that he can perform this action, but, in fact, he cannot.
For example, he gets an opportunity to perform some action, and he wants to do it for the sake of bestowal, for the sake of further advancement in the love for the Creator, in expanding his spiritual vessel, but it turns out that this is wrong.
In our world, this is expressed in such carnal pictures, but in the spiritual world, everything happens in a completely different way.
It is written, pelt the girl and the man with stones. Since they both are under external influence, it is not only his, but also her, responsibility for the event occurring. That is, the desire that is among other desires must also control itself.
This is about ZON of the world of Atzilut, Zeir Anpin, and Malchut that connect together, and therefore, both resistance and agreement are possible here. The city in which they connect means the world of Atzilut.
There are many subtleties here. First, everything happens above the Parsa that is represented by the city wall surrounding the city. It symbolizes the influence of the surrounding society, to which the girl herself, her parents, and this man belong. Thus, it takes into account not a personal, but a public correction. Therefore, they deserve a harsher punishment.
There are many such conditions in the Torah, and this is natural, because it is about correcting our intentions. The desires remain the same.
Our single desire is divided into 613 parts. Each of the 613 private desires has its own egoistic intention that must be corrected to an altruistic one, for the sake of others, and through others for the Creator. This, in principle, is our spiritual work. The Torah is talking only about this and nothing else.
A man symbolizes intention and a woman—desire. The right combination of male and female parts with the right action for bestowal leads to the birth of the next spiritual degree.
From KabTV’s “Secrets of the Eternal Book” 10/5/16