Question: What does it mean to be in the center of the group?
Answer: To be in the center of the group means to relate to everyone in an identical way. You shouldn’t divide them into respectable or not, old or new, smart or dumb.
Like a family in which you relate to everyone with the same love, even though it is expressed differently to each one , but everyone is important and necessary. It is especially this sensation that gives the feeling of the center when there is no difference between people.
In my daily work, I can, of course, prefer a specific person from among the people I lean on according to the hierarchy of the factory. But when I think of the group, that is already a completely different picture. Before me there appears a mass, forces that are equal towards everyone and forces that are equal for all.
The group is the equality of everyone for everyone in all categories. There are no differences between others according to any standards. After all, in a family I relate towards everyone according to their needs and don’t ignore anyone: the baby needs this and the grandmother needs that, the wife needs this and that, etc. Each one has his needs and to each one I give the attention that is needed.
Question: Both during the lesson and the meal, we need to constantly look for the center of the group. What do I need to search for within myself?
Answer: One needs to be very careful, so that the center of the group doesn’t bring you to the state of apathy and indifference towards everything that happens, and that you would think that this is the center of the group.
The center of the group is equal relations, goodness, and warmth towards everyone without any differences. It is my family. Bring the group closer to you and you will feel that you are with them and will feel their warmth.
From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 4/17/14, Questions and Answers with Dr. Laitman