Question: What should be my role in the group: Zeir Anpin or Malchut? Or both of them?
Answer: You need to fulfill your friends with all your strength. This is the main commandment of the Torah: “Love thy neighbor as thyself.” I am not Malchut, I am Zeir Anpin. My only wish is to receive desires from everyone and fulfill them.
Then who represents Malchut? I play the role of Malchut before my friends in order to receive from them the strength for bestowal. This is a different channel of interconnection. I receive from them the strength to be the giver, and then I rise above them to bestow to them. The cells in the body interact the same way: Every cell receives from others and bestows to them.
From the 5th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 6/27/2011, “Matan Torah (The Giving of the Torah)”