Question: How can we connect the opposites?
Answer: Opposite things can only be connected through resistance which opposes both of them. It is not important what the resistance consists of; it exists and it is the only thing that can connect the two opposite phenomena.
For example, two people, a husband and wife, do not get along with each other. They turn to a specialist, a psychologist, and he connects them. How? He does not agree with either of them; he is in the middle.
Such a judge must be within us: I do not connect two opposite things without a third one because the direct connection between them is impossible. And if I try to do this, then I get a short circuit, causing destruction.
This is also related to the connection between husband and wife. Due to the growth of the egoistic desire, they feel themselves to be opposite to one another, and between two opposites there has to be a higher connector.
Zeir Anpin and Malchut (ZON) of the world of Atzilut connect only under the condition that they ascend into the Partzuf Aba ve Ima. Before this, there is no connection between them since it only forms due to the ascent, the attainment of the Creator.
In the future, family will only exist due to the higher spiritual goal, and for the sake of attaining it, spouses will support each other.
From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 12/10/10, Talmud Eser Serifot