Question: I have been placed into a specific environment by the Creator. But at the same time my environment’s response seems to slow me down. I lower myself before my friends, but they seem to tighten the reins and make me walk instead of gallop. What should I do?
Answer: There are different situations. People who have attained high spiritual degrees can pretend to be indifferent so that you exert more effort, yet nevertheless see them in a positive light, even though they appear to you to be slobs, loafers, and so on.
If the group consists of beginners and has an egoistic intention Lo Lishma (not for Her Name) before the Machsom (the barrier separating us from spirituality), then they must not pretend to be indifferent. They have to demonstrate ascent to one another; otherwise, they will not advance. They must be taught to awaken others, to make sure no one remains indifferent.
One needs to watch people. Some are unable to find a connection with those who dance, sing, laugh, and cry. They do not care about this. In this case, my friends need to notice that I don’t pay attention to their efforts and find a way to come up with tricks and games that will influence me.
This is the way to work with everyone. After all, the group consists of separate people, and this is why we must care for everyone’s ascent. But at the same time, after all the effort we have to be patient because everyone advances at their own speed.
Some are unable to grasp this principle for years; they are here, but they are not present. Others are drawn to the study process: Every page of Talmud Eser Sefirot that they have studied is spiritual attainment to them. Others are very good at teaching or other things, but they neglect everything else. So, we need to be patient.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 1/25/2011, Writings of Rabash