At the first stage of the spiritual development, a person doesn’t yet have the Creator and the group; he just wants to receive pleasure. At the second stage, he is willing to bestow in order to receive and is not focused on bestowal, but rather is occupied with fulfillment. It is his goal.
At the third stage, a person wakes up: He has the Creator, Reshimo (spiritual record, gene), the point in the heart. He is fed up with receiving directly and yearns for something new, which he also wants to receive for himself. However, at the same time, he focuses on his egoism much less.
At the fourth stage, a person starts working with the group. Between the third and the forth stages, there are many states of despair caused by the inability to attain the spiritual world. Only after having experienced these states, a person realizes that there is no way to succeed alone and accepts the group as the sole remedy. He is now able to lower his head before it. This transition may take many years.
And finally, a person begins working in order to bestow to the group wherein hides the Creator. This continues until he attains the state of bestowal and is able to receive for the sake of bestowal.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/14/10, “And Jacob Sat at the Land Where His Father Dwelled”