Answer: The only way to check this is through the connection between us. The solution to all questions lies in the place where the breaking occurred.
Are we coming closer to correcting it? This is the entire issue. If I see that I am uniting with the spiritual sparks of my friends, that from one day to the next we are becoming more and more united, that our desires for the quality of bestowal among us are becoming more precise and consolidated, this means I am on the right path.
What matters is the extent to which I have the right idea of the picture. My demand to the friends comes later. First of all I have to check my own attitude: Do I see that the solution to all my problems, questions, and requests resides there, inside our unity?
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/20/10, “The Matter of the Slanders”