Question: How can you help a friend who has fallen into trouble in the corporeal sense?

Answer: Suppose a friend comes to me and tells me about some trouble he is facing. It does not matter what exactly; let’s say he feels unwell. Relating to him as someone from the group, as a force with which I advance toward the Creator, I take his trouble and begin to pray to the Creator with his unfulfilled desire (Hisaron). This is called: “He who prays for his friend is answered first.”

I must take his Hisaron and his problems instead of my own and turn to the Creator with them as if I have no problems at all. If I truly had none, there is little wisdom in that.

But if I also have very big problems, and yet I take the friend’s problems instead of mine while maintaining awareness of what I am doing, meaning I put aside my ego a little and work toward the Creator with the friend’s Hisaron, then this is purely spiritual work.

Question: And what about the direction of the friend’s own work?

Answer: What concern is that of mine? I ask the Creator to improve his state, meaning to advance him toward the goal, because the lack of advancement toward it brings him these misfortunes. This may manifest in anything from owing a $10,000 debt to some illnesses or disaster.

I must accept the friend’s corporeal level as my own spiritual level. What does that mean?

By suppressing my own desire to receive, I take the friend’s desire and work with it. This means that I work spiritually; I am work in bestowal to someone else. If I take any corporeal problems of a friend, no matter how mundane, in place of my own troubles, my own requests, and arrange them in such a way that I truly ask the Creator for them, then this is called being “the leader of the people.”

A leader of the people is one who takes all the troubles of the people instead of all his own problems and turns to the Creator with them, desiring that they be fulfilled and not himself, that they receive everything, from their current state up to the end of correction, and he does not. And he is ready for this.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/16/26, Rabash, “Make for Yourself a Rav and Buy Yourself a Friend – 1”

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