Question: Today a lot of people don’t believe it is worth helping others anymore. People say that if you help someone and get them out of trouble, they become your worst enemy. Many feel completely drained after helping someone.

Do you think maybe we shouldn’t help anyone at all? Should we just let them make their own choices? If someone asked you this question, what would you say?

Answer: If you want to help someone, you must be ready to give. That means it is only going from you toward the other person—man, woman, child, animal, it does not matter who—but you help without expecting anything in return: kind treatment, gifts, or gratitude.

Comment: Not even a “thank you.”

My Response: Yes, exactly. Nothing! Only then is it truly help from your side.

Comment: That is very lofty to not expect even a thank you.

My Response: One word, “thank you,” can be worth billions. It does not matter what it is. Imagine a baby smiling at its mother, what a reward and expression of gratitude that is for her! So it all depends on whether you expect something in return.

Question: But is it possible to raise oneself to the point of not expecting anything in return? Is that even possible?

Answer: That is what true giving is.

Comment: That is beautiful! And at the same time, it feels impossible.

My Response: Otherwise, you are doing everything for the sake of gratitude.

Question: And then it does not count that we did something for someone?

Answer: Correct. Check how much of your help is actually selfless, what percentage and how much of it is given because you still hope to receive something in return—gratitude, a reaction.

Then perhaps you will not have such expectations.

Comment: And then there will not be any disappointment.

My Response: Yes, there will be no unfulfilled expectations.

Question: Why do we feel so drained after helping someone, like our heart has been broken?

Answer: It is precisely because you expected to get something in return. And if there is no feedback, no return energy, you feel an empty black hole.

Comment: That is very Kabbalistic.

My Response: That is just our nature. What can we do? So prepare yourselves to perform truly altruistic acts.

Question: What exercises can we do to tune ourselves to this?

Answer: Only outward—not back to yourself, only toward the other. You need to have the energy and the desire for this. And you certainly do not have that energy or desire yet.

So you must train to be able to do this, no matter to whom. If it matters to whom, this person or that, then that is already your reward.

Comment: So if I do it for an important person, then…

My Response: For someone important, close, kind, good, beautiful one, compared to someone ugly or dirty, it does not matter what or how.

Question: Then I am already receiving a reward?

Answer: Yes, right away. You need to reflect this very precisely inside yourself. It is very difficult.

Comment: You are asking the almost impossible from a person.

My Response: Not “almost impossible,” it is impossible! But it is the truth. That is the Kabbalistic calculation.

Question: Sooner or later, will we come to live this way?

Answer: Yes, life will gradually bring us to this inner psychology where we will see who we really are, what vile beasts we are, and how we cannot rise above ourselves, even if we want to! And then we will all cry out to the heavens together.

Question: “Give me strength,” right?

Answer: Yes, so that He gives us strength, understanding, reason, how we can we do it so that all of this does not return to my wretched egoism!

Question: So actually, when you always say in your videos: “You have to learn to do good or at least pass along kind thoughts to another person”—are you really talking about this?

Answer: I am speaking from this exact perspective.

Question: Step by step? So can a person gradually come closer to this?

Answer: Yes, it will all happen.

Question: Really?

Answer: Really!
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 4/27/25

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